Dating for the first time

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Help I need some advice! To avoid drip feeding: I'm 30 and was in a long term relationship for most of my 20s. It hasn't worked out and I'm sad about it as is my ex partner and maybe if we worked at it it could still work but I'm feeling pretty fed up and feel that I've missed out a lot on living and dating. He's 15 years older than me and although we are really close for the last few years it hasn't gone that well and it's been very on and off.

In the off periods I've tried dating using online sites and I've really struggled to even get a conversation Going.

However yesterday I went on to bumble and suddenly I seem to have struck up a conversation with someone.

I have a few worries though, he's just asked me for my number so we can whatsapp. Can someone track down who you are from your mobile number? I guess they probably can.

My other thing is my name is really unusual, google it straight away and I come up! I have a made up nickname on FB that I used for online dating Too and I'm wondering if I give him my number and he asks for my name whether I should just give him a fake name. I know this makes me sound crazy but I am worried about making myself so identifiable to someone I've known for 10 hours and not exchanged much info with.

I suppose I should add as well I'd much rather meet someone in real life. I find it really hard to muster up any attraction or enthusiasm for people online and I don't think I really have a type as the sort of men I like in real life have often been the result of getting to know them. The problem is i just don't meet that many men in real life! And the Ones i do meet don't seem interested.

I suppose I feel very nervous and wary of doing online dating.

Anyone?

Well would you like it is a guy gave you a fake name? I doubt it! Anyway people always advise on here for women to check out potential dates on social media, to make sure they are not a fake or in a relationship/married.

Just make sure your social media pages are private (as they should be anyway if you don't want randomers looking you up) don't lie about your name.

Hi there, I would just give my first name. If you have only just started chatting on-line there is no need for anyone to need any more than that. I've never heard of anyone being able to locate someone from their mobile number except the authorities. take care.

The problem with my first name is it's really identifiable

I think then you have to go with your instinct. I know people have said you shouldn't lie about it but if you need to protect yourself maybe you can go with you nickname. it's not a made up name if its one you use.

So if a man lied to you about his name would you be ok with it? I doubt it. If a woman posted on here saying a man she met had lied about their name everyone would be telling her to end it because he can't be trusted and "what else has he lied about" but you obviously don't want to say your name, so maybe is there a nickname that can be formed from it and use that? So for example if your name was Christine just say your names chris/Chrissy?

Yes I think that's a good idea. I'll super abbreviate it and that way hopefully it still works.

Yes you're right I wouldn't be pleased if someone lied to me about their name and similarly I don't really want to start something that could go somewhere on a massive deception. But I am nervous about this.

Is it normal for people to ask for your number so quickly? All we've done is exchange horoscopes (he asked not me)

Well my name change failed! But this is me!

Yes most men asked for numbers quick ime. Just make sure your number isn't linked the your Facebook as you can find people on fb that way. Just shorten the name that's not a big deAl but don't say a completely different name. If a man lied about he's name people would assume he was in a relationship or something so trying to hide his identity.