After years, YEARS of not getting anywhere discussing DP's lack of sex drive, and my feelings of rejection because of it, any conversation has never got past 1. me saying i'm unhappy 2. him saying he's sorry, he can't help it 3. me saying, i know, i can't help it either.
after being turned down last night, i told him it's time there was some compromise sometimes. i think he's got used to saying no, and forgotten how good things once were. i wasn't asking him to have sex when he doesn't want to- i don't think that'd work mechanically speaking anyway! - just to remeber that for years, he's had it all his way, and i've never had it mine. he doesn't feel like being sexual, so we rarely are.
So i'm feeling v.empowered and chipper today, it was good to get it off my chest!