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Not sure where to start, but sad again

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Sadwifeagain · 08/04/2018 13:21

My dh hurts me so much, I don't have the ability to write it all down on one post, my head is so muddled and I'm not good with words. We have 2 dc, together 12 years. He's always had a short temper and a mocking sense of humour and I beg him not to say certain things, he just continues over and over. He is determined he is right over most things. I didn't want to go out last Sunday and he was so nasty, some name calling and then we spent the week away on holiday needling at me. He said as I hurt him he felt the need to irritate me. I am struggling very badly with anxiety and exhaustion. I've recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I feel fit to burst with pain inside me.
I don't know what to do. I just want a family life, I try to get past things over and over, but we always end up back here with me feeling so hurt and unloved and my dh saying it is my fault, or we aren't compatible.
I need to think clearly but I can't.

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justpoppngby · 08/04/2018 15:36

Bumping for you.
You poor love, the situation sounds awful. Are you able to leave? I wouldn't stay in a situation like this. ThanksThanks

Sadwifeagain · 08/04/2018 15:44

Thank you for bumping. It all seems overwhelming, not sure where to start. I am afraid that things can be so bad when we are together, that when we are apart and the process it would take to get there, he will be worse. All I wanted was for it to work. In the car today when he was shouting, my 6yo was holding my hand giving me comfort. Now that the situation is affecting the children my hope has faded.

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Shoxfordian · 08/04/2018 16:44

Look into how you can leave
Life is too short for this

Ryder63 · 08/04/2018 16:50

This situation is already affecting your DC, and will cause long term damage if it is allowed to continue. Please find a way to leave with your DC.The process may be hard, but "short term pain for long term gain" is a good way to look at it.

Sadwifeagain · 08/04/2018 17:11

Shouldn't i stay with my DC in the family home? He has a job and I'm a sahm.

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Bexter801 · 08/04/2018 17:14

You and dc can make your own family home Smile one where you both deserve to feel happy,and comfortable

Bekabeech · 08/04/2018 17:19

I would suggest you phone Women's Aid, and keep trying to get through. They can hold your hand and give practical advice.
If you have sympathetic health care providers, then you could share a bit with them. His behaviour is likely to affect your health.

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