Relationship advice

[Mike8]

Hi
I am just after a neutral view ‘I am a 40 year old male married 13 years together 18 ,2 children .
8 months ago I was diagnosed with motor neurone disease ‘I am still good in health terms ie walking ‘movement etc .
My wife has become very distant which I understand she’s not going to be doing cartwheels at the moment ‘all affection seems to have gone hugging ‘kissing ‘sex etc
She hasn’t taken any time off work to spend with me to try to create memories ‘I have also noticed her relationships with everyone else are still the same ie work colleagues ‘family ‘friends etc it’s just when it’s us two alone .
I understand how she feels but I just need her to be more like her old self with me ‘I am a big believer in staying positive affects your health and for me to last as long as I can with this illness I need to be positive and worried this situation will end up getting the better of me and end up becoming negative about the situation
We have spoken many times about this and for a couple of days it does improve but shortly after declines back to how it was .
I try so hard to take the strain off her so she has less to do ‘I am still pretty mobile so I do all school runs ‘household work washing etc anything I can do to help I am there I just don’t feel I am getting it back

Perhaps she is afraid of something. Have you two sat down and properly discussed what has happened since your diagnosis. It sounds like to me there is a lot of issues pushed into the background that need sorting. I can’t second guess it unfortunately and I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis but pleased that you are taking a positive view of it all. I wish I could be as positive about things as you are.

Sorry to hear this. It may be that she does not know how to cope with your diagnosis and is burying her head in the sand. Have you been referred to your local hospice as they can offer councilling for you and also your wife. I have also been diagnosed with a neurological disease and it took my family a while to come to terms with it more than me. Councilling has helped enormously.

Hi
Yeah my thoughts where counciling but just wanted a neutral opinion ‘I have discussed this with her but I don’t think it will happen yet ‘thanks for the advice any views help to be honest as everyone is so different in situations.
Thanks again

Hi Mike , I found the best support for me was to talk to others in the same situation and joined a Facebook group.

Hi
Thanks for the advice I will consider that ‘hope your coping with your illness