I just need an objective view of where I m at.
I have two dc with partner I ve been with for 14 years.
Ds wasnt planned (now 4) and things went downhill from then. I spent my pregnancy sleeping in the spare room and skimmed over the issues when ds was born
Over the last two years he has been increasingly mean towards me - verbally really abrupt and speaks to me like shit. He only shows affection when hes drunk other than that its just like we re distant friends.
He wont talk about 'us' so I text him a few months ago telling him I love him etc and want to get back to us. He replied saying he didnt hate me but that was it.
So I moved into spare room and acknowledged it was over - again via text.
He is really good with dc but the constant put downs and general lack of giving a shit about me is really tough to live with. I cant drive or lift at the moment as I ve habing treatment on slipped disc and his reply to asking if he could drive me to the shop for food was - have i broken my legs too..
Oldest ds has SATS in may so I ve told ex after then thats it and am already looking for housing etc.
I guess things have been bad for years and its now normal but its not normal is it? No family to turn to and friends are mutual friends - no one knows as hes fine infront of others and trying to keep all ok for ds doing exams.