Name change?

[Newmumin2017]

Hi ladies, my partner and I are not married and have no desire to be, so at present, I have a different second name to DP and DC. I was chatting with a friend and she asked if it bothered me and I said that although it does, I just have to live with it unless I want to get married.

My friend suggested changing my name by deed poll. This is not something I have ever considered and would be interested to hear some opinions. What do people think? Have any of you done this or know anyone who has?

Thanks

A good friend did this as she wanted to have the same surname as her DS. No desire to get married, has been with her DP for over a decade and family is committed and happy as they are. It’s an option.

To be honest, I would just have a secret registry office wedding with two strangers as witnesses. It gives you the name change plus other benefits and security of the marriage.

My parents had some friends who they thought were married until the man died. It turned out that she had just changed her name (quite scandalous really given their age and society’s expectation!) It did cause quite a few problems when he died as they’d not put proper provisions in place for when that happened. Marriage would have done this automatically.