DP and boundaries with his parents

[AnotherMIL]

I seem to be having some problems with my DP and his family.

Can I just canvas some opinions as to whether it is normal for the father of a 40 odd year old man (my DP) to ask if we ‘still f*ck’.

I’m a bit 😱 about this but my DP thinks it’s normal.

I’m not after any details from others but just wondered what other people thought of how normal my situation is.

I'd be flummoxed by FIL and I'd see my DP in a new light if he actually answered that question.

Not normal and very crass.

It's the language used. I can openly chat with DM and my Stepdad about sex but not be crass about it.

Thanks everyone. You’ve confirmed what I thought that this isn’t normal.

My FIL who has a lot of relationships once showed me a photo of his latest special friend whilst we were having morning coffee in full bondage gear and told me she was a dominatrix 😳 cue many many unwelcome visual images
We're NC now for many many reasons such as this lol

I find the language used a bit crass, if he said it to you personally then that would be shocking but if it was a private conversation between father and son then it isn't that big a deal really just a little embarrassing and a quite a bit nosey. Maybe he was planning to impart some wisdom on the subject if your husband's answer was "no" 😂

Gross and inappropriate!!

Why are you with your partner at all now, what are you getting out of this relationship?

Ah, the stock LTB response. MN never fails to deliver.

It gets better: apparently his DF then asked what sort of contraception we use. 🙈

I mentioned about the dementia possibility and apparently he’s always been inappropriate. Anyway, I’ve told DP that I’d rather he didn’t discuss specifics with his father. He has accepted this and is happy to respect my privacy.

Thanks once again to you all for helping me get some perspective on this.