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How to help a close friend

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longshot · 06/04/2018 11:38

I wasn’t sure where to post this. My oldest childhood friend told me yesterday that her DH has just revealed a gambling addiction to her. They live abroad, I know him but not that well as not in my day to Day life but what I know / have seen I have always liked. We normally see them twice a year.

Anyway he’s spent all their savings (60k!!) and she isn’t telling anyone (so far) but me. She is obviously angry and also really sad he’s done it. I want to offer constructive, useful advice but actually have no idea how to?? Can anyone advise on what I should steer her towards, anywhere she can get advice?

They can’t afford rehab for him because he’s spent all the money!! They don’t own a house and have no assets. I mean FFS. They have two DCs, she works really hard and has a decent job (he also works but mainly looks after the kids). I don’t know how to help her and really desperately need to say the ‘right’ thing as she’s not telling anyone else.

I had suggested she tells his parents (who are wealthy) but she says he won’t want to (which I get) but surely she can’t handle this by herself.

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