Waste of time?

[perkyblender]

First time poster but long time lurker.
Hoping for any advice at all really

Met a similar minded, hilarious guy for the first time earlier this week. We met on tinder, both early 20s. We did sleep together. Had a great time however he has admitted that he’s “shy” and not used to “clingy” people - we text several times a day and have done for 4 weeks prior to meeting up. Even though I really like him I find it difficult to understand what he wants - example the other night he text me saying he knows I like him and he’s not wasting my time, like a reassurance of some kind. But then he won’t message back often/reply. I just don’t know, was the saying he’s not “used to clingy people” basically I won’t always reply and need space or what? I’m not an obsessive texter by any means. I just feel a bit like he blows hot and cold sometimes. It’d be a shame because I really like him. I’m sorry this sounds pathetic! Just can’t stop thinking about him, or sleep!

Final update (I hope!) I’ve decided I’m just going to see this guy, basically. We’ve talked and he admitted he wasn’t ready for anything serious at the moment and tbh as much as I’d like things to progress to a serious stage I’m happy to just see him for now. I think the potential for it to progress IS there because he definitely likes me but I’m not clinging all hope onto it. I’m happy for it to be what it is at the moment and he’s actually communicating more now we’ve spoken about what we both actually want. He said it was my choice whether to carry on or not. Thanks for everyone’s input on this!

So you have done a complete u turn on what you have said about him

You have said hes self centred and selfish but your gonna carry it on

One date and you weregoing ott about his communication etc your be his fuck buddy at best

But your decision,good luck

I think you are setting yourself up for a fall. You're already very invested in this and he has told. you loud and clear that he doesn't want a relationship. Good luck though.