I met my husband when we were 19, we’re now in our mid-30’s so I’ve known him most of my adult life. Our relationship had the standard ups and downs but nothing too crazy. He has a hard time keeping a job - In the past two years he has probably only worked a couple of months. Reasons range from lying on his cv (this was a low point) and being caught, to short term things coming to a natural end. I’ve always stuck by him and supported us both when things got really tight. I’m not saying I didn’t have the odd nag about finding something else but by in large I kept it to myself.
2 weeks ago out of the blue he told me he didn’t want to be married anymore. We hadn’t had an argument or anything, he just said it. And then left. And 2 weeks have gone by and I haven’t seen him since. I went into his phone account and saw he had been calling another girl for hours at a time early in the morning and late at night so I am sure that this has something to do with it all. He won’t admit that though and again without any argument has just stopped talking to me altogether. He did say he told this girl I went into his phone records and she was going to call the police.
I am struggling so badly to come to terms with how this all unfolded and why this has happened. I can’t reallt understand why he isn’t speaking to me like I did something wrong; the couple of conversations have been so cold where he has instructed me our marriage is over and I’ve to detail what I’d like and he wants me to sign divorce papers.
I just feel like I will never be able to move past this terrible time - I can’t eat or sleep or concentrate on anything and I just ultimately want him to come home. Sometimes I wish I could fall asleep and not wake back up but I know anything like that is silly. I know it’s my emotions playing tricks with me but it’s just how I feel. please help, any advice would be so greatly appreciated.