Embarrassing situation with my child's father

[lucyxo]

Soo..

A really bad situation happened yesterday with my child's father when he dropped him home after having him for a day I decided to have a drink of alcohol earlier in the day and then took a 3hr nap to try and sleep of the effects and when I woke up I was feeling a bit rough, when my ex dropped of our son I stupidly begged him to stay for couple more hours and to help put him in the bath he was reluctant at first then fianlly agreed and it was most definitely the alcohol cause I tried to get him into bed with me and only want physical out of him, he said he still finds me attractive and if he were single he would and blah blah, i don't love him or anything we split up 8 months ago he dumped me 27 weeks pregnant for another girl, So the whole process has been really hard, I'm so vulnerable i got low self esteem and really regretted having a drink that day cause I know I wouldn't of made that stupid choice and my ex rejected me and said he can't cheat on his current gf, and then he left, I woke up the next day so embarrassed I wasn't to crawl in a whole and die, Just angry at myself.. my ex messaged me the next day saying dont worry about last night we are fine we just need to ne civil for our son, so i agreed and said it wouldnt happen again it was a mistake! Has anyone ever gone through an embarrassing situation similar to me I surely can't be the only one lol

I'm sorry that I haven't had any similar experiences to share but I am certainly no stranger to making a fool out of myself. I think most people have at some time and I think that we all need to remember that (1) it isn't such a big deal to the other people involved, and (2) it is all forgotten quicker than you expect it to be.

Clear the air next time you see him - you can blame it on the alcohol and laugh it off. It sounds as if he handled it well, both at the time and later by text, so hopefully you can trust him not to tell everyone, and to take him at his word when he says that your relationship with each other remains fine (I'm overlooking the fact he abandoned his pregnant gf for now).

One thing I did wonder was whether you engineered the situation purposely, or even subconsciously. If so, I think you need to accept that there are some residual feelings and keep contact to a minimum until you feel stronger.

Don't beat yourself up, it will soon be forgotten

I’d just try and forget about it to be honest but the fact you chose to have a drink during the day when you knew you’d be in charge of a baby later and had so much that a three hour sleep hadn’t straightened you out is probably of more concern than making a pass at your ex.