Lovebombing

[jennyjillly]

Hi Mumsnetters. I recently tried out OLD after being widowed with a few years. I am 35. I have been on 3 dates so far .The first two I just didn't have any spark with and the attraction just wasn't there. The 3rd guy initially I wasn't impressed with as he was 13 years older than me and had clearly used younger pictures of himself on his profile. Anyway he completely lovebombed me and did and said whatever he could to win me over. Then just as I started to actually really like him he took off. I was really hurt and felt desperately rejected. Has anyone any experience of this?? I'm now planning on meeting another guy over the weekend who seems lovely but I'm scared something like this could happen again. Maybe I just need to take a break from it all

Been there and worn the t shirt. Horrible, hurts and makes you question whether your loveable, etc . My thread about what I went through is on here somewhere. Not sure how you search. I had 3 months of it and it had a very profound effect on me. In all honesty it's something I don't think I will ever fully forget

Yes i have that t shirt as well!

OLD 😑

It's hard to stay juuust open enough but not so jaded that you can no longer make conversation cos you just cant imagine it ever being any thing real.

OP - sorry about your late husband and it’s great that you are getting back to life and dating.

Please, please don’t let one bad experience ruin it for you.
Just put it in perspective and learn from it. I don’t know how long it went on with the older guy - but couldn’t have been that long. It’ll pass.

You’ll see that you’ll naturally be more guarded with the next guy. And if anything seems OTT - you’ll sense it.
Just go with your own speed and don’t rush anything....
Remember - many frogs first, Prince later

Good luck

Yes love bombed fell for it now living a life of hell trying to get out of it. He's changed (that's my fault I've changed him!)

You've had a lucky escape.

Thanks for the replies. Yes you live and learn. When you have been out of the dating scene for so long you can tend to forget how it all works. I have a tendency to move too fast and over share when I'm into someone. Hopefully things will go well tomorrow