Snapchat message to colleague

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Husband replied ‘looking good :)’ to a picture a colleague who sits next to him sent.

Im a bit pissed off about this, its not something he often ever says to me so why is he saying it to her? He’s also deleted their Whatsapp history.

Shes married, to a man she was having an affair with who she was knocking off in a park then got pregnant.

Friendship between them is fine but I dont find that comment appropriate as a married man to a married woman. Would you?

That particular comment wouldn’t bother me on its own.
The fact that he never tells you you’re looking good and has deleted their WhatsApp history probably would bother me.

I would be annoyed. This woman also has history of affairs so can’t be trusted. The what’s app history is very suspect. I would monitor him closely for a few weeks, you can’t jump in with both feet until you have something substantial to go in with.

'Looking good' itself wouldn't bother me - to me it's a non-committal, fairly meaningless polite response to a picture or new haircut or something. Pretty sure I've used it myself when there's not much else to say but don't want to appear rude.

If deleting chats is unusual for him then there may be something in that but I wouldn't get carried away at this stage.

The main things I can see in the OP is you feel that he doesn't compliment you and the fact you know about the chats. Has something made you uneasy to make you go looking?

Looking good is fine imo. If you feel obliged to reply to a selfie then it's an appropriate response.

The deleted messages and never complimenting you is a big deal though.

So you're checking his Snapchat and Whatsapp then? Is that because you've been having problems? Have you talked to him about not feeling appreciated?