Have I made the right decision to give him up?

[Dimael]

My partner is Greek and took a job back home, it was only supposed to be temporary but now he is back there he wants to stay. Well I tried traveling to see him, talking on the phone but I felt the distance between us growing by the day, arguing more. I could tell we were unhappy. I decided to let him go 2 weeks ago. I can’t see me moving to Greece to be with him, I can’t speak the language and I have my career and family here. Problem is I feel lost without him, the silence these last 2 weeks is killing me and my friends are avoiding me like the plague. I tried talking to him this weekend and he seemed pleased to talk - saying hihihihi and telling me I am so beautiful. But then he flipped and was like my negativity is passing to you I will say goodbye now. He hasn’t spoken to me since. I feel so lonely. I really do love him but I am stuck! He keeps logging on to this running app we have and liking my posts, I am the only person he has on there and he isn’t running himself lately so he must still have feelings for me too?
Sorry for the rant! I need outside advice here on what I am doing.

I think you need to end it. It’s impossible if he won’t come to you and you won’t go to him. I’m a big believer that there isn’t ‘the one’, the world is a big place with lots of people.
Call your friends, demand they spend some time with you and start over.

Why are your friends avoiding you?

This is the early stage of grieving a break up. Take time to do things you like, stop looking at him on social media, don't contact him. Be kind to yourself & do things that you enjoy.

Even if there is a 'one' this one isn't it. You're grasping at straws with the running app thing.

It’s definitely over. Thanks for reassuring me that it was the right thing to do. I’m definitely struggling to come to terms with this by myself. My friends want me to go to Greece and make it work that’s why they won’t talk to me now. I have too much to give up here and I so desperately wish he would come home but I know he won’t.

Gosh your friends dont sound very friendly.

I know i’m thinking the same thing. I really am all alone in this world now.

remove him from your running app

All your friends want you to go to Greece? You aren’t all alone, you’ve got work and family, focus on those and things you enjoy.

I once went on holiday alone when I was feeling super down, I did a working holiday with the National Trust, I relaxed, met new people and it was a really positive experience.

Well maybe not all my friends. It’s my best friend that has said it and it hurts the most. I feel like I have lost the two people I was closest to. It’s a real kick in the teeth to learn she is speaking to him but ignoring me. When he was living here her husband was close friends with my ex boyfriend. I can’t believe she would take our 10 year + friendship over him. I told her that it’s easy to say you will move away but when faced with the decision for real it’s not so black and white. She told me I give up too easily.
I’m working and studying to build a career for myself so it would be stupid to quit that now. I am part of a running club and go to a dance group too so I should be ok for keeping busy. Just a bad day I guess.

Your friend sounds crazy!

I'm sorry to hear rhis. It's so difficult isn't it, giving up on someone. BUT as a previous poster said, he isn't the only man in the world and once the sadness at this has ended, you will find someone new x

Poor you- it's horrid when a relationship ends.

Ps your friend is unhinged.

Your friend has a romantic storyline in her head. Unfortunately you're the one who would have to live it. Just because that's what she (thinks she) would do if she had the choice to make, well, she doesn't.

Yes I think she wants me to be happy and she sees that he has made me very happy in the past. However times have changed and I have to face reality, I have given long distance a good go and it’s not working so the fair thing to do is walk away now.