Taken the hump, am I being petty?

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Partner works away and was my birthday Sunday. He was having to work so I went over to see him on the Monday. He normally has Monday and Tuesday off when he's in a work cycle.

Plan to go for a meal which we did both had lots to drink and a fab night. Next morning he was up at 09:30 wanting me up and dressed. Hadn't planned to lounge but was still woozy and waiting for painkillers to kick in.

Didn't get what the rush was for he said wanted to take me to breakfast. Off we went. He decided he wasn't a breakfast eater says the man who loves a bacon sandwich on a morning.
So sat in a cafe, he had a coffee, I had toast and coffee. I hadn't planned on spending the day because I needed to get back for the kids and knew he had some works bits. Didn't expect him to want shot of me straight after breakfast. Got back to his room thinking we'd have a snuggle and nurse our heads a bit more.....but no. It felt awkward. I said are u wanting me to get off he said yea.

Said goodbyes and drove off thinking it had felt like I'd outstayed my welcome. I've never felt that. Spoke to him about it and 'it's all in my head'.
Now I've got the hump because it was like he'd switched gears on me. Fab person I love on the night to the one night stand when is this girl leaving guy

Is it in my head?

Tumbleweed blowing through

Sounds like he had some plans that day which didn't include you and wanted to get on with whatever it was. Rude of him though.

Is he usually like this the next day? How long have you been together?

He definitely wanted rid of you...I'd be suspicious

Sounds fishy, I'd be paying him an unexpected visit.

Did you ask why he wanted you to leave so soon?

Maybe he wanted to organise your gift?

Sounds very suspect. I’d be thinking he had another love interest

10/11 years together.

He said he had a hangover and had some work bits to do. I had a hangover and even if I had work bits to do wouldn't be expecting to go like that. Took me aback a bit

Never been like it but he's been a bit off more so last week.

He's now in a mood with me because I'm in a mood with him

You've been together a long time. Where do you both see it going in the future?

As far as I was aware we grow old together go on adventures when the kids are older, have fun and celebrate all the wins we can.

You've been together nearly 11 years and he booted you out in the morning?! rough!!! Is that the first time he's done that? Perhaps he was planning a surprise but if not why wouldn't he have just left you in bed etc even if he had to work etc. ... hmm i'm not one to jump to the 'suspicious' conclusion but if he's been off for a week is there something going on? Was he keen to see you for the dinner or not?

Is there a reason you don’t live together after 11 years? Unless you have subsequently taken delivery of some sort of surprise birthday gift that required last minute organisation, his behaviour does sound odd but then you don’t sound massively committed to each other after such a long time together either, which also sounds odd.

I think I’d be suspicious too. Not so much about him booting you out, because that possibly could be hangover-related poor communication, but because he’s now in a mood with you about you feeling upset and uncomfortable. That feels like deflection to me. If he’d genuinely done nothing intentional then I’d expect him to be apologetic that he’d upset you on your birthday weekend, not snarky with you about it and gaslighting you on top. I’d definitely be keeping my eyes and ears open for any affair signs if I were you.