how to make friends

[spicegirl1]

I have no friends. I lived in different countries and couldn't form long lasting friendships. I had few closed ones, who are not interested in making an effort.
I am unemployed, marriage is stressful, no kids.
I feel lonely and hopeless about everything.
I come from a small family with a really bad childhood. NC with father for 2 decades. They all live thousands of miles away. I have one sibling who is doing better than me. Sibling is very dominating, likes to talk but not listen when we get to talk. Has said very harsh things in past but never re. ally apologised.
I really miss meeting friends, conversations, etc. But I have realised I was the one who went along with what they wanted to do mostly. How do you make friends when you are in early 40s and no kids, no job?
One more thing I wanted to add that I have become quite depressed in last few years.
Thanks for reading.

Hello. I too find it hard to make friends, but I have a child and a job A friend emigrated several years ago and so in trying to make friends from scratch, she went to yoga classes, a running group and joined a choir. I presume you speak the language in your new country? If not, language classes may bring you into contact with other expats. Actually, I have taken foreign language classes myself and they tend to be quite social. Another piece of advice from a friend who has moved around lots was to always say yes to any invites - people will only ask once, maybe twice max. Hope this helps a little, good luck.