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How many of you have....

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user1467480231 · 03/04/2018 15:42

Changed your surname after divorce, or kept your married name so that it's the same as the children's.

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user1467480231 · 04/04/2018 07:20

Really interesting to hear all your opinions. My exes new girlfriend is freaking over the fact that I still have my married name (I've had it half my life!), which is quite funny really.... so maybe I'll just keep it ;)

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MrsJonesAndMe · 04/04/2018 07:22

I kept mine for a few years until I remarried. He also remarried and both sets have gone on to have more children so it was always going to be complicated.

Rainboho · 04/04/2018 07:34

I changed my back by deed poll as soon as I could. I wish I had kept my name on marriage so that my DDs had double barrelled. They aren’t phased at all, although older DD doesn’t want a double barrelled name (as its too much of a mouthful).

DPs ex has kept married name - I don’t really care. I do think that you should do with your name what suits you i.e. not keep it just to rile the new gf.

Ryder63 · 04/04/2018 07:36

My exes new girlfriend is freaking over the fact that I still have my married name

I had this too!

springmachine · 04/04/2018 10:19

I changed back because I didn't have children.

pinkpixie83 · 04/04/2018 10:23

Kept my married name. I prefer it and I wanted to be the same as the kids.

He didn't like it tho, told me I had no rights to the name as it was his!

mummyretired · 04/04/2018 10:25

Both. Changed back to the same as the kids. I didn't feel a connection to my married name after the divorce.

category12 · 04/04/2018 11:33

He didn't like it tho, told me I had no rights to the name as it was his! Heheh, no takey-backsies.

RatherBeRiding · 04/04/2018 11:36

Kept my married name because I hated my maiden name (and married name much "nicer"), and I really couldn't be arsed with changing documents/accounts, and I wanted the same name as the kids.

category12 · 04/04/2018 11:43

Part of the reason I kept my married name was it's better than my maiden, which is bit embarrassing and I have to spell it all the time. Reminds me of getting teased at school. Plus my father is long dead, was not a good man and I have no ongoing connection with his side of the family. My mum remarried and took his name. So going back to it would be odd really.

Oneapenny · 04/04/2018 12:26

When I changed back to my name (couldn’t wait) exh was very offended.

HDHDHD · 04/04/2018 15:38

Been divorced twice.

First time no kids and reverted to my maiden name the day after I left. Took a while to sort official documents and my new boyfriend hates going on holiday with Mrs someone else's name. Realise now that this was a red flag - he felt like he needed to own me.

Second time with kids I have no inclination to change it though I do often use Ms instead of Mrs. Get on OK with XH. Current DP couldn't give a monkeys about my name as he's a grown up. Likewise his ex has kept his name and it doesn't bother me at all.

I don't think I'd go back to my maiden name again. I would change to my new husband's surname if I married again though.

HDHDHD · 04/04/2018 15:39

*hated not hates

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