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To say or not?

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TLC1975 · 03/04/2018 15:08

Ok my first ever post but have been reading a lot. I am going on a date with a lovely guy on Friday. We met online and this will be the first meet. Do I tell him in advance that I am a curvaceous lady before the date? I know it shouldn’t matter but I would hate to see a look of disappointment cross over his face? Thanks in advance! X

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cakecakecheese · 03/04/2018 15:13

Have you not sent him pictures of yourself?

Poshindevon · 03/04/2018 15:15

How do you know this guy is lovely? Maybe he will dissapoint you. Go on the date no need to describe yourself before you meet.

MissBax · 03/04/2018 15:16

Hasn't he seen pictures?

coffeeeandtv · 03/04/2018 15:16

Why not tell him, in as much as you don't want to waste your time on someone who is superficial and judges a person on their size alone. I'm sure he has been drawn to your lovely personality and you both share the same values and when you meet he will realise that beauty comes from within and just because there is slightly more..... 'within' doesn't mean you can't have a good time on Friday, please keep us informed how your date goes and I genuinely hope he's worthy of you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/04/2018 15:17

Do you know what he looks like?

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TLC1975 · 03/04/2018 15:17

Cakacakecheese he has seen pics but mainly face.
Poshindevon, that’s my thoughts. He appears very lovely but then don’t they all!

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yasmin0147 · 03/04/2018 15:20

No if you think he’s lovely it shouldn’t matter, if he isn’t he’ll soon show his true colours good luck with your date.

letsdolunch321 · 03/04/2018 15:22

If he has seen facial pics that should be enough.

He should be interested in you as a person not what your body is like.

What made you ask should you tell him you have curves?

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TLC1975 · 03/04/2018 15:25

Thanks for the responses, let’sdolunch I think it’s my insecurities shining through.

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Flowerfairs · 03/04/2018 15:33

I would swap pics with each other first so you both know who you're looking for/meeting! Do your head shots include shoulders?

letsdolunch321 · 03/04/2018 15:44

Hi TLC,

We all have insecurities, I too am a curvey lady. Have you spoken about what you find attractive in the opposite sex?

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TLC1975 · 03/04/2018 22:06

Hi all, thank you. We have spoken about what we find attractive in the opposite sex. I have updated my WhatsApp with different pictures, some not so flattering. Oh well what will be will be; guess just nervous to dating again! X

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GammaDelta · 03/04/2018 22:57

You have updated / posted your pics on what's app so he should have seen them hopefully if not just add some more on status. Hoping you two like each other.

letsdolunch321 · 04/04/2018 09:06

Good luck

ShatnersWig · 04/04/2018 09:12

He should be interested in you as a person not what your body is like

With the best will in the world lunch for the majority of people physical attractiveness is what catches the attention and initial interest to want us to spend more time with someone to find out if we're interested in the person/personality. The latter is what tends to determine whether we fall in love and what keeps couples together.

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