Betrayed my trust ?

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There is a bit of background to this story but I will try to keep it short.

My partner has admitted he is an alcoholic, he doesn't like to drink in the house as we have 2 small children so ends up in the pub modt evenings.

Sunday afternoon he text saying he's sorry for his behaviour recently and wanted us to go out for a meal st 3pm.. I agreed. 3pm came and he wasn't home, I tried to call but no answer.

5pm, still not home... He called and said he was sorry and was on his way.

7pm still not home, he called and apologised again and said he would be home soon. Obviously pissed off at this point I told him not to bother and I'll pack his things for him.

He then turned his phone off.

I saw several pictures of him in the pub throughout the night on social media... He turned up the next morning at around 7am drunk!

We argued, everything then settled in the afternoon. I get a message with a picture of him in a hot tub with 2 girls and 2 guys !!!

I am absolutely mortified that my boyfriend has done that to me ! I found out that he was in the hot tub at 3pm when we were waiting for him to come home!

I honestly don't know how to deal with this!

I'm certain he didn't cheat, but my trust has completely gone. How could he do this to me and his children?

What would you do?

I would kick him out. Out of love for him and the kids.
Alcoholism is a heart breaking disease. Giving him chances after chances enables him to continue. It’s a fight he must battle himself.
Sorry, OP.

Yes he is currently staying at his mum's.

I feel so hurt by what he has done.

When he came home I have him the opportunity to tell me anything that had happened. He lied to my face.

Obviously then giving me the excuse that he didn't want to hurt me.... well now I'm even more hurt by his lies.

It's no life. You will turn into an anxious wreck. You all deserve better. Call it a separation if you wish, and I'd see how he is in 12 months, for example.

End the relationship, completely. He's not a partner.

I wouldn't be certain of anything he's a complete liar!

Value yourself more than this beecause he never will

I think you should finish it. I met up & started dating an ex boyfriend after my marriage ended. He was perfect, until I realised that he was/is an alcoholic. I've been left in pubs by myself with no where to stay, had normal conversations that suddenly turn nasty, & mind games that make me think there's something wrong with me. The problem is that he is a lovely person, as your boyfriend probably is, but they are alcoholics. He will grind you down & effect your mental well being. Not sure how old your kids are, but what happens about days out with them? Surely they will begin to notice somethings not right at some point. Put them first (and yourself) dont rely on empty promises from someone who wont/cant deliver because alcohol is no 1.

He isn't a partner.

He used to be the most amazing person you could meet. He would of done anything for me and the kids. We were priority.

Then the last 6 months it's just all got out of control.

He has sought help for his drinking but it's such a long process. And its hurting me along the way (as selfish as that may sound)

The children are too young to understand at the minute but our eldest is most certainly picking up on the arguments.

Our eldest is 2 at the end of this month and our youngest is 3 months.

During my pregnancy, certain things came out about a few of his family members and that's when things began to change and the drinking started.

I just can't see things getting better.

The hot tub incident was a turning point!
I'm hurt as my confidence is pretty low (Just had a baby, EBF, feeling a bit fat etc)