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Still trying to find my sexuality at 29.

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thetaleofthegooseandthesloth · 03/04/2018 00:22

The first person I ever had sexual feelings for was a female and mostly in the beginnings of my sexuality and fantasies it always involved them. Men were more something I sort of learnt to fancy over time. Ive been in one serious relationship and one marriage. Ive slept with 2 women (whilst drunk though) & 10 men.

I dont find men unattractive, and some men are very much so, but they don’t turn me on like women do.

What does this all mean? Do I even need to label it? Iv had doubts over the years that I’m maybe gay, but I dont feel I’m 100% either way but that I find women much more. Id take going down on someone/being gone down on over fucking any day.
I dont think I could have a relationship with a woman though, the idea of that feels odd.

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thetaleofthegooseandthesloth · 03/04/2018 00:25

Serious relationship & marriage both men, I should add.

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Zeze247 · 03/04/2018 00:28

As I’m learning just now sexuality can be fluid I’m mid 30s and had sex with a man for the first time last week having only ever had sex with (or even kissed women!)

IWantMyHatBack · 03/04/2018 00:30

Well, I'm 39 and feel much the same way.

I'm bi though, and happier since I've realised it's not always 50:50 and depends very much on the person.

thetaleofthegooseandthesloth · 03/04/2018 00:31

Wow @zeze. What did you think?! Grin

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thetaleofthegooseandthesloth · 03/04/2018 00:32

Ergh, excuse my poorly written OP. It is 00:30 after all Confused

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Zeze247 · 03/04/2018 00:35

thetaleofthegooseandthesloth
Yeah it was nice he’s a friend so totally trusted him and there had been a fair bit of alcohol! Though I did have a morning after walk of shame to the chemist 😳

thetaleofthegooseandthesloth · 03/04/2018 00:57

Ah @zeze I’ve been there, at least you sorted it anyway. I somehow forgot to do that which resulted in my 3rd child! Thankfully he’s bloody cute Grin

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esk1mo · 03/04/2018 01:06

i don’t usually revert to labels, but could it be that you’re bisexual but heteroromantic?

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/m.mic.com/articles/amp/127096/what-is-a-heteroromantic-bisexual

Zeze247 · 03/04/2018 08:09

I’d be the opposite homoromantic

Addy2 · 03/04/2018 09:14

I wouldn't label it. Just be with people who you are attracted to.

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