Feel so sad...

[Sadsoul18]

Split up with my partner almost a month ago and I still feel devastated. I know I did the right thing...I just feel so lonely.
I miss the connection we had, having someone to share stuff with, someone to hold me and make me feel loved.

I just want to feel better...like the old me. My emotions are so up and down and I’m exhausted by feeling this way.

I’ve tried keeping busy, throwing myself in to my work, night out with family and friends...but when the distraction ends I just go back to feeling like I’m drowning in my own bleak mood.

Does anyone have any tips for making myself feel better please? Thanks in advance.

It will get better with time. Sounds like a cliche but it’s true. Be kind to yourself, keep busy, but also allow yourself to feel the sadness

Poor you a month isnt long though. It took me a year to recover from my break up. The first few months were very raw. Be kind to yourself xx

A month isn't long at all.

Keeping busy is the right thing to do. You could also see if you could have a few CBT sessions, as it helps break bad thought patterns and set you on a better road. If you put the effort in it can be very helpful.

Thanks for replying.

I’m just really worried that I can’t snap out of it. I’ve never felt this low before.

Things will get better naturally over time, but what you're describing does sound like clinical depression. I think you should see your GP.

I am 3 weeks into a split and like you ok when busy but it all floods back once my mind isnt occupied, i am glad I ended the relationship but the missing my exdp is sooo painful . It's time we need

It’s the physical pain that is so hard. I just wish I could sleep until I feel better. I have no energy and look terrible no matter what I do.

I miss being with him...I feel so alone even though I’m surrounded by people who love me.

@Sadsoul18 are you able to talk about how you feel in RL as I believe that when things like this happen and we feel very low talking helps.

It is very early days and I know right now it feels like it will never get any better but you have to give yourself time.

I know exactly how you feel SadSoul - I am two months into splitting with my DP of 5 years and still cry every day. I am really struggling with missing the good parts of him. Even though he overstepped my boundaries and made me miserable sometimes, the majority of the time I was really happy with him. But when I wasn't it was awful.

I have counselling (it was that which prompted me to split with him and go no contact, as she said he was verbally/emotionally abusive) and have just started taking anti-depressants after a tearful trip to the GP. I feel like I should be over it by now, but I honestly feel worse than when a close relative died. I'm really hoping the ADs will help. Perhaps you could try that too?

The grief is so painful, so I am having to do whatever I can, including medication, to get through it. I'm also doing yoga, concentrating on building up my business, trying to make more effort to meet up with friends and am even looking into singles holidays for the summer when I was supposed to be going away with him.

People say that time heals, but I'm sure the only way I will totally get over him is to meet someone else to fill the parts that can't be filled with self-care and keeping busy. Just having someone on your team, someone to share things with, is the most important thing for me and I know I won't feel complete on my own, even though everyone keeps saying I should be.

I sympathise, I split with me DP yesterday, I know it's the right decision but it doesn't stop me missing him. I was on my own for 10 years before I met him, and finally thought I'd met the man who ticked all the boxes and was worth waiting for 🙁 really don't want to go back to being single and hoping I'll meet someone who gets me.