Can you really be friends with your ex?

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Just wanting your opinions on this and has it worked for you?

My ex and I went through horrible times when we first split up, mainly through me being a bitch, and we now seem to have got past that and are friends again.... the thing is, I don't want to be in a relationship with him but I feel really jealous that he will get with someone else.... I don't know why this is. I love being able to talk to him and have a laugh, and also see him occasionally and don't want to loose this... so this is possibly why I feel the jealousy as I know it will come to this one day.

Not in my experience!

In my experience, you can't. And it fucks up future relationships if you don't establish boundaries properly.

My relationship had just been fucked up by my bf and his friendship with his ex. Who, like you, was extremely pissed off we were together and decided to ruin a 2 year relationship.

Yes but it took a lot of years and we were very young when we met and had dd1.

Depends on all sorts. Age, length of relationship, type of relationship, why you broke up, married/kids?
I’m great friends with an ex from Uni days- split of horrible/childish terms. An ex from an older relationship- nope, not a chance!

I don't see the point in it. Unless I had kids with an Ex ... once it's over... I'd rather leave it in the past.

I've had an Ex send me a friend request on FB and just ignored it. The same Ex was at a party that I was at and was asking agter me ... I decided to leave.

Yes. You can, absolutely, but not if either one of you still has romantic feelings for the other. So, you knowing you would feel jealous indicates that you should not try to be friends with this man.
You can't dangle this man on a string because it suits you to have him around just enough, and you can't get in the way of his future relationships.
Maybe in a few years, when you are genuinely uninvested, THEN you can be friends.

I am good friends with my ex, we think the world of each other but it has taken years to get here.

My BF finds it difficult but as me and ex have a child together he tries to accept it. They get on ok too.

His recent ex hated me and how well we got along. I was respectful of their relationship and made a real effort to get along with her and put her at ease but she was incredibly intimidated me.

That's not why They split up but they had many rows about it.

Yes. I am friends with my DS dad. He's a nice guy, but we weren't right for each other. We decided when we split that our DS was the most important person and he would never witness us falling out. We successfully co-parent and our relationship has developed into a positive friendship. DS is not always happy with this as he has also realised that he can't play us off against each other as we just pick up the phone and talk 😁

Saying that, other ex's were not given the opportunity to be friends as they are utter cockwombles.

I thought me and ex dh were still friends, of some sort, due mainly to dc. We only communicate regarding dc but are amicable.

But I found out he slags me off to everyone and he was the one he who lleft. I really wish I had drawn a line under our divorce. I have learnt and as dc are older I rarely contact him.

Yes but it has taken years and I have NO idea about his love life nowadays and do not wish to know. He is a good friend and helps me alot and is more like family to me nowadays.