He's going to lose all respect for me isn't he?

[BearsandHearts]

I've been seeing a new guy for around 5 weeks. We've been having fun and it's going well. We went away for a night and in the heat of the moment we didn't use a condom. I'm not worried 're pregnancy as I'm on the pill but I feel he'll lose respect for me now

You should be far more worried about YOU than worried about HIM.

No, we didn't as got carried away on date 3!! Together years and happily married

He should've wrapped it!

if he does then he wasn't worth having anyway

agree, with Bumble, he had no regard for his own sexual health so coulndn't give a tiny shit about yours.....

If he's someone you should ditch, he probably will lose all respect for you. But rather than living your relationship in reflection of his feelings, why not focus on your own?

I was pregnant 8 weeks after meeting my husband! He won't lose respect for you if he's a decent guy and would stand by you if you had fallen pregnant.

How do you feel about it ?

A bit stupid any fucker. We both had a oh god moment when we woke up but he didn't seen worried

And your "respect" for him ?

The respect issue is of rather less importance than the fact that you’ve risked infecting yourself with a selection of STDs, some of which are life threatening. I hope you get yourself checked out at the clinic.
If the chap makes a habit of unprotected sex, he could be carrying anything from HIV to syphilis, chlamydia or gonorrhoea.

Are you going to get emergency contraception ?

Sorry, just spotted you are on the pill

You both need to get sti tests

OK. No need to panic.

Go to chemist and get morning after pill. It's available OTC. Yes I know you're on the pill but it's not infallible.

Wait 2 weeks (common incubation period for most STIs) and go to your local GUM clinic and get tested.

Say or text him "Last night was so hot not using condoms but it was also really stupid. Are you fucking anyone else?"

If he's not fucking anyone else then tell him to send you a screenshot of his GUM results.

If you suspect he's still fucking other people then just revert to condoms.

Please don't panic, the GUM clinic staff are generally really lovely and non-judgemental. They can also help with advice about contraception and which are the most reliable methods.

Honestly it’s really not that bad, ok so in the moment you BOTH forgot to use a condom. Yes it was a bit stupid but we’re all human and sometimes this happens.

He had sex without a condom too so don’t really see how he can lose respect for you

I’d recommend you get a STI check though just to be on the safe side. You won’t need emergency contraceptive if you are taking the pill correctly (i.e haven’t missed any etc)

So you BOTH forgot the condom, and you BOTH take a fun trip down to 56 Dean Street or your local clinic together. If he's not up for that, then that's the answer you're looking for - or rather the answer you SHOULD be looking for - do I respect him. If he doesn't immediately take half the responsibility and get checked out with you then he is a waster.

Good luck x

Definitely haven't missed any pills. I'll speak to him tonight about a trip to the clinic