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How do I cope with him?

9 replies

Emma198092 · 01/04/2018 17:49

So for the last year or so oh has taken coke, usually on a wk end
I've ( wrongly) often facilitated this as I have a friend who has access to it.
We spoke in the new year about this stopping and he agreed it was unreasonable and up to now has not had any.
This weekend however he made contact with one of his friends on Friday and suggested he had some for the weekend. This annoyed me, I said I wasn't happy he wanted to spend £160 on that when we have other priorities . Since I've said this comment, he's ignored me. Basically I've had the silent treatment
I've lost it today and said that it's disgusting that not having some white powder is causing him to be so rude.
He's turned it around and accused me of being " nasty" but can cite no examples!
He's behaving like a child and has completely ruined the weekend
I feel so alone, how can you explain to friends or family that your husband is being vile as you made your feelings clear with regard to blowing money on drugs
I have no where to turn 😔

OP posts:
vilamoura2003 · 01/04/2018 17:52

I am sorry but this behaviour would never ever be acceptable to me and I would have to call it a day. It's not much help I'm afraid, but I grew up with alcoholism and prescription drug addiction - my self preservation would never tolerate that behaving in a partner Sad

AnyFucker · 01/04/2018 17:56

End it
He's an addict

YearOfYouRemember · 01/04/2018 17:58

Turn to a solicitor and divorce him for unreasonable behaviour.

Iooselipssinkships · 01/04/2018 18:33

Cocaine is vile. He will end up getting it anyway and is thinking up a way while he's 'sulking'. Keep all your shit close in case he storms out.

DumbleDee · 02/04/2018 00:04

Total deal breaker for me. Sorry. Why on earth did he start (and you help him get it)?

lifebegins50 · 02/04/2018 00:11

Its not your shame so don't hide from family.Your H started to take drugs and it's not your fault.Don't put off telling family or friends as you are likely to be surprised at the support and empathy you get.

RebelRogue · 02/04/2018 00:21

So you supported/facilitated his addiction/habit for a year but now are surprised he wants to keep doing it? Really?

butterfly56 · 02/04/2018 00:27

So you supported/facilitated his addiction/habit for a year but now are surprised he wants to keep doing it? Really?

^totally agree with this^

NotTheFordType · 02/04/2018 00:56

how can you explain to friends or family that your husband is being vile as you made your feelings clear with regard to blowing money on drugs

"just to pre-warn you guys, X is sulking because I told him I don't want him taking a drug that makes his erection wilt and for him to act like a tosspot this weekend."

Should pretty much cover everything...

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