Single mums: How do you get over your child's father?

[lucyxo]

My ex dumped me for another girl when I was 27 weeks pregnant and didn't see him during the rest of my pregnancy until my DS was born, I see my ex every week so he can pick up his son, and everytime I see him I start to remember that we were once a couple and it's painful reminders, and seeing the man every week that has caused me emotional pain is hard to deal with. He's happy in his relationship with his gf and im single alone and depressed, I know it's going to be a long and tough process, I've been single for 7 months now and only seem to be getting worse, any advice ladies on how to move on?

I’m so sorry. I have moved on after my ex left me (but I wasn’t pregnant - that must have been so so hard-) however I still feel sadness and pain sometimes when I see him. It’s not for him though it’s the family unit - I have to keep reminding myself that if we had stayed together I’d constantly be worried he’d leave again. Big hugs to you x

I’ve been separated from my husband for two years now and still have those feelings even now. I think it’s thinking how things used to be and what could’ve been. I think if we got back together the old problems would still be there. It’s hard but I think eventually I’ll be able to just see him as someone I used to be married to and feel less sad.

I would love to know the answer, unfortunately I'm still not over mine and I guess people will say "time" but that hasn't worked for me! It's been almost 2 years since we split.

It's so hard having to see your ex because of kids.

Mine cheated and left two years ago, then married the OW within months. I was heartbroken and very confused over how a man I'd loved for ten years could throw it all away.

However, two years post-separation and I'm pleased to report he makes me shudder and my skin crawls. He isn't the man I thought he was. He lies, cheats and runs away from responsibilities.

He's shown his true colours, trying it on with me, slagging off his (now) wife to me, skipping child support cos he wants a holiday, not visiting when baby ill in case he gets it. Yuck.

I do feel sad when I see him with DS and I think about all the time they miss out on together. But I'm happy to say I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole these days.

It'll come in time, but maybe start reassessing your perception of this man - do "keepers" leave pregnant partners? Nope. Also I wouldn't assume they are happy, I found out that my ex is closely monitored by his wife cos of how they started, plus she has spent him into huge debts - before I knew this I thought they were happy newlyweds. Ha.