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Fiance going out with her friend who is trying to set her up with a date

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user1479814544 · 30/03/2018 21:26

Hi, I hope you can help me? My fiancé is going out with her friend who is trying to set her up with a date. Her friend doesn't approve of me and my fiancé should have been seeing me tonite but long story she ends up going out with her friend instead of seeing me but told me about what her friend is up to. My fiancé tells me she isn't interested in anyone else and will politely let this person know. Would you trust her? It stinks to me!

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Barbaro · 30/03/2018 21:34

Why don't her friends approve of you?

NSEA · 30/03/2018 21:38

I doubt very much her friend is setting her up with someone else when she is engaged. For 2 reasons:

people tend not to be that aggressive about getting friends to break up with partners
who would agree to be set up with an engaged person?

You are being a bit jealous and should trust her. If you’re going to marry her then that’s how it should be.

HonkyWonkWoman · 30/03/2018 21:41

If it's "meant to be", no date arranging by the friend is going to work.
If she strays, you have your answer!
Would you want to be with someone that you can't trust?
Your fiance has said that she's not interested in anyone else, so you must take her word for that.
Can you go out with your friends when she goes out?
Stop worrying OP!

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user1479814544 · 30/03/2018 21:44

Barbaro apparently her friend doesn't think we will work out and get married. Also she has accused me in the past of having a double life and seeing other women. Neither of which are true. To be blunt her friend is a nut and I think a bad influence on my fiancé.

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user1479814544 · 30/03/2018 21:47

Well I have to say I am not happy about it and did ask her how she would feel if it were me doing this to her. I know dam well she would not like it. How do I know that numbers wont be exchanged and she might actually like this guy?

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FrancisUnderwood · 30/03/2018 21:50

Don't mind me, just hanging some red flag bunting up here for this marriage.

DamsonOnThisDress · 30/03/2018 22:05

This is all a bit strange. The friend sounds very young or an idiot.

Regardless of this very odd set up, you really should trust your fiancée. If you think she'd just hand her number out so readily I think you need to reconsider the engagement.

MyKingdomForBrie · 30/03/2018 22:09

Well if she does exchange numbers and like the guy then you know your relationship isn’t right.

I’d be upset if my DH friends felt like this about me - there must be a reason for it though?

ColourfulOrangex · 30/03/2018 22:22

The friend seems to be going to a lot of trouble to get your fiancé to break up with you

Also if your fiancé was happy she wouldn't of gone on the date that's just weird

IntoTheFloodAgain · 30/03/2018 22:28

Is the ‘date’ meant to be tonight and your fiance has gone along?

Juells · 30/03/2018 22:31

Don't mind me, just hanging some red flag bunting up here for this marriage.

corythatwas · 31/03/2018 02:59

You don't seem to think of your fiancée as someone who a) has any will of your own b) finds her relationship with you very rewarding.

If she believes that you are the one person in the world most likely to make her happy, then she could meet all the gorgeous men there are and it wouldn't make a blind bit of difference. If she doesn't, then your relationship isn't likely to last anyway, and it won't have anything to do with who she might meet on a night out with her friend: it will be to do with her lack of faith in your relationship.

Uggie · 31/03/2018 06:16

How do I know that numbers wont be exchanged and she might actually like this guy?

So you think the best way to prevent this happening is to ban your fiancée from seeing any of her friends who you consider to be a "bad influence"?

8SaltandVinegar · 31/03/2018 06:29

How do you know all of this? Did you fiancé tell you? If she did, it's either. .

A. She won't go down road.
B. To make you jealous

Petty games all the same. LTB

Bluetoo1 · 31/03/2018 06:32

Perhaps your problem is that dgf has a nutter friend who will try to stir things or come between you. How important is the nutter friend to your dgf ? If scoring points between you and her is going to continue maybe have second thoughts on the engagement.

Joey7t8 · 31/03/2018 06:57

If you think that your fiancée would be so easily led astray, then why are you marrying her?

Babyblues052 · 31/03/2018 07:28

Shouldn't matter how hard the friend is trying to set her up. It's up to her to make it clear she's with you to her friend and any other guy she tries to set her up with. If she does you've nothing to worry about. Depends how much you trust your fiancée

trojanpony · 31/03/2018 07:35

Where is your fiancé in all of this?
Does she not have volition ?

pinkyredrose · 31/03/2018 09:25

Men who think their partners friends are a 'bad influence' are usually controlling and insecure in my experience.

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