Around a month ago, I checked my partners phone after a night out, and a message popped up - it was clearly quite intimate so I started replying back, (my partner was in bed). I pretended I was him, I messaged this woman for almost two hours. I found out lots, I ran upstairs and confronted him and he denied everything.
The next day I managed to set him up, I met the woman and got him to come to the coffee shop, he still denied everything. By that time I had seen lots of texts and nude pictures of him which she was willing to show me.
It took me a week but I found the courage to throw him out. Since then he has begged me to take him back, but I know I never can.
Meanwhile, I have talked to another woman who has been spending time with him since he left and he has been giving her loads of small talk. She has also told me he has told her that he had a number of 'sexual friends' in recent times, one was at work, and it turned sour and that's why he left and is now in his new job. Both of these woman I have spoke to, have had a sexual relationship with him - the first one says it has been four years. The other one at least two years.
Two years ago, he suddenly got up and said he was leaving as he wasn't happy, I was in a state of shock it was out of the blue. He went away but asked to come back a month later as he was missing me. I found out that he was with other women in this time.
So in the last two years I tried to make a go of it and trust him again, but I always felt their was something missing. He would go on his mobile at any opportunity and Whatsapp, but I could never catch him - but I always just was suspicious. When we were on holiday last year he was sending nude pictures of himself from our hotel room to that other woman - she showed me the pictures when I met up with her.
I am just so devastated and don't know how I am going to get over this, why oh why, do people get treat like this? it is so disgusting, this is the man I thought loved me