What would you do?

[Inexperiencedchick]

You are dating someone and when you come to his and mention that sometimes you feel disconnected due to him working while you are there, he tells you “I’m not going to leave everything and put you as a main priority, am I?”

Would you dump him?

I would suggest a friend to dump and don’t even think twice...

But it’s me who is involved and questioning everything.

You would think in the dating stage, when he sees you he would be less distracted and want to actually spend time with you I don't think I would continue dating if he already made me feel shitty

Yes.

was he performing life threatening surgery on a patient at the time if yes.. then you are being unreasonable....

if not...

Ditch his very selfish arrogant Ass from a convenient height....

I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

Has he invited you over for a date night but then ignoring you to do work? Not ok.

Or is he very busy with work, but still wants to see you and have you there so invites you over and tells you he needs to do some work? Probably ok, unless it's every single time and you don't have any date nights.

How long have you been together?

Thank you Sparkles

Just thinking “Am I being manipulated so much that I’m actually thinking about all this crap...”

It's not really dating if you're at his and he's working, is it? Dating's supposed to be fun.

However I do think that comment is awful and I would not be happy at all with that in either of the scenarios I mentioned above!

Yes. Even if the expectation is unreasonable there is no reason for him to be so rude about it. Never date a rude man. Rudeness is the first symptom of narcissism and a lack of respect for others. Manners maketh man or whatever.

He’s very rude. And he’s showing that he doesn’t care about the impression he makes on you.

Together around 3 months, seeing each other.
This happens often actually.

I come-he is working... And I feel like I come and leave my own things and waste my time at his by sitting and watching random tv programs. What is the point of me even being there.

Indeed, what is the point of you being there? Stop going.

“I’m not going to leave everything and put you as a main priority, am I?”
Well, yes! And walk out. You shouldn't need to ask this really.

Kick him into touch. You can do so much better.

Yeah dump. “I’m not going to leave everything and put you as a main priority, am I?” Says everything you need to know

Yeah don't bother with that! It will only get worse.

3 months in things should still be exciting!