I am separated (it’s been 2/12 years),and 18 months ago I met a really lovely man. The relationship developed really quickly and our feelings took over. We both clicked and were both surprised how naturally we fell for each other. I am 9 years older than him.
Without being dramatic I was convinced it was love. He called when he said he would, messaged when he said he would and was always happy to be with me, I never felt as though I was demanding his time.
Another plus was he wasn’t bothered about boys nights out (a first for me!) and I was really secure that he would never cheat (again another first!).
The problem is, a year into our relationship something didn’t sit right. I was devastated and to this day can’t explain it. We had differences in that I’ve got children, he hasn’t and I drive he doesn’t (and has no intention to) sounds silly but it’s a sticking point. Then I started to compare him to my ex. I have absolutely no interest in my ex other than I had a different life with him. But I feel like I’ve gone back ten years.
I know it sounds ridiculous but I was used to a man who fixed things in the house, who shared the driving, who seemed a bit more driven. This is different it was almost like I made all the decisions and he just went along with them. Sadly, we are now just friends but I miss him so much and now am so unhappy but even now as much as I try I can’t see a future with him.
Has anybody else been in this position? I don’t want to suggest getting back together as the break up hit us both hard and I don’t want to mess him about. Will these feelings pass?