Help!! Dont know what to do anymore

[petite03]

Hi All

I have been with my partner nearly 7 years, and we have a 5yr old together.

Im literally at breaking point and crying everyday.

He the most amazing man when we got together, supported me early on through a personality disorder diagnoses. As time went on, he started changing. He wanted us to have a 3sum with another guy which i went along with to please him. (baring in mind I am still under CMHT). I ended up straying away due to the other guy making me good about myself. once the novalty had worn of i regretted it. My partner found out and hes never gotten over it.

every week hes fighting me, 1. im boring because i wont have another 3sum.

1. I dont satisfy his needs and wants (we have sex or some kind of intimacy most nights)
2. i make his life a misery

Im regularly told that most girls would be greatful if their partner were to let them sleep with other men.

Its like Im living with two different people, and started to feel very depressed about my future.

Scared of being alone again.
scared of seeing him with someone else.
Regret letting him go.

I literally dont know what to do.

This sounds like a clusterfuck and you need to walk away from both of them and put your mental health & your child at number 1 priority.

Sorry if i was vague... the other guy was 6 years ago. and theres been nobody else since.

Well firstly, he has zero respect for you that is for sure. Secondly he obviously thinks you should be eternally grateful for having him as a partner, I mean, he sounds absolutely wonderful - disrespectful, degrading and belittling you.

Why on earth would you want to stay with someone like that? And what about your child? What is that teaching them?

Don't be afraid of being on your own, I did it with a 2yr old and it was the best thing I ever did (3yrs ago now).

Im worried that he will try son away becauae of mental health. His family can be brutal and have kept him from me before. I dont have a family to support me.

Mental health always comes first. Look after yourself op or you will end up feeling worse.

Ive been pushing for years to get DBT therapy, but i was no longer classed as high risk and palmed off.

Ive been looking at paying but i simply cant afford it.

OK, I think first port of call then is to speak to your doctor / health worker / Women's Aid and someone legal and see where you stand. Neither him or his family can take away or stop you from seeing your child.

Do you have a friend that can help you or you can talk to?

Please call Womens Aid urgently - 0808 2000 247
This is horrible for you and your poor DS.
You need their help with a safe exit plan.
Him and his family sound toxic.
No-one should be keeping you away from your son.
Also contact Rights of Women and also CAB.
You need help support to leave this horrible situation.