My ex completely dotes on his first child - spends loads of time with her, takes her for days out - the first time we met he was telling me all about her as you’d expect a proud father to. Fast forward a couple of years and one baby later and he doesn’t care one bit about our baby and it breaks my heart a little bit :(. He never bothers seeing her, missed her first Christmas and birthday and keeps coming and going - one minute apparently realising how crap he’s been and how he’s going to turn everything around, making promises to come and spend time with her and then not bothering.
When I first got pregnant we talked everything through and as it was unplanned - he was completely adamant he wanted to be in her life and wanted us to have a future 
Has anyone experienced this kind of thing before? I half want to cut him out of our lives completely but dread feeling responsible for having 0 contact with my daughters father. Although he’s totally useless anyway, but this coming and going is really making me feel depressed. I don’t understand how someone that lives down the road would miss their child’s first year of life (yet message me constantly and making Loads of effort To be in contact all the time 
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I know it’s nothing to do with me because we were on better terms than his ex his first child is with.
I’ve started a maintence claim against him, he’s refused to pay and now has several hundred in arrears. I think he’s binning the letters without even reading them because I haven’t had a backlash from that yet.
This probably sounds completely pathetic but I just feel really shitty about it all now, definitely some bitterness too for how he’s treated our child as if she means nothing to him 
wwyd? x 