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Lmj25 · 28/03/2018 19:20

Hi just wanting some advice really and if anyone else has been in same situation. Been with partner for 6 years his mum is and has been an alcoholic for years and years she's pretty much dragged her son up and I am shocked at the stories I have heard. I've been a the end of her drunken wrath a few times and it's disgusting she's attacked me in front of my son and has caused argument upon argument in my own home. I don't want her around my son not for being bitter but In all honesty I don't trust her at all with him partner still thinks she should see him I understand it's his mum but I cannot settle when she is in my house we've arranged a few times to meet at a play area and partner always talks me into letting her come to the house for an hour instead. When my son was a few months old (when I thought I could trust her) she took him out for the day however it got to the point we had to ring her only to find her pissed up looking after my son I've told her I should have stopped her being in our life from then he's 4 now I am just at a loss at what to do she causes so much stress. I got pregnant young and instead of letting me tell my
Own parents she rang them up pissed up again telling my mum 'your daughter is pregnant ding don't the witch is dead' makes no sense I know but that's her for you. sorry for the rant anyone else had to deal with such things x

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Lmj25 · 28/03/2018 19:21

Oh and she threatens she will take us to court if she can't see him, she hasn't got a leg to stand on really but still baffles me how she thinks she would
Get anything

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Lmj25 · 29/03/2018 09:40

Anyone??

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Aprilmightmemynewname · 29/03/2018 09:43

She has no legal right to see your dc. You need to go nc and keep your ds away. If your dh wants to continue a relationship with her then that's his choice.

GrockleBocs · 29/03/2018 09:45

You can't leave your son with an alcoholic. Your partner can't admit it yet.

I'm going to report this to ask for it to be moved to relationships if that's OK. You should get more responses there :)

Lmj25 · 29/03/2018 09:46

Yes, Im not interested between partners relationship with his mother that's completely down to Him it's my son I'm worried about she's been texting partner this morning basically abusive why can't she take ds out on her own it's her time to shine etc it's really delusional she can't seem to understand she has caused this due to her actions

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Lmj25 · 29/03/2018 09:46

Thank you 😊

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curious86 · 29/03/2018 10:06

You are in such an awful situation but your right in the fact your sons safety comes first and you need to get your husband to understand that. It could affect your son in other ways aswell if he keeps seeing it.
I think you should just tell your husband if your mum wants to see him she has to deal with her own problems first as it's not fair in any of you

Lmj25 · 29/03/2018 10:15

It just causes arguments constantly and I think that is what she is aiming on she recently found out we were expecting 2nd child and now has kicked all this off about taking dc on her own. She's honestly delusional I wouldn't have enough time in the day to write everything she's done, she's shown dp photos of his exes etc when we've been sat together just petty things like that anything to get a reaction however I've stopped giving them as I know
Her game. And your right it's not fair on dc he picks up on everything and still goes on about when she hit me almost a year later he was only 3 at the time it's disgusting

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