Single- hand hold with joining new walking group

[wakingfire]

I am 40s and divorced and trying to 'get out there'
There's a walking group of young 20-30s (plus some a bit older) that I know about. A friend kindly came along with me for my first time over a year ago, but I've been too scared to go back.

I've seen they're walking near me again. I will be kid free with no other plans that day. My options are to sit at home and watch tv, or pluck up the courage to go along alone. I could have done this in 20s or early 30s as I was full of enthusiasm and confidence. As a much older woman I feel really embarrassed. Can anyone help motivate me up to do it? Or does it sound not a good idea?

Everyone feels weird the first time they do something. It's normal to try to think of reasons not to go! The first few times you go, you'll feel weird. And that is ok. Just push through.

What are you embarrassed about? Is it a general feeling, or are you afraid of something specific?

Do it! Walking groups tend to be full of friendly and interesting people, many of whom are also single and will be on their own. I was older than you when I started (50s), walks I have been on with the large group I'm in have had ages ranging from early 20s to late 70s. I've always been made welcome (& I'm not particularly outgoing). Please go and then report back!

Do it, do it, do it.
I joined a social group when my marriage broke up, I was so nervous the first few times especially going on my own. I'm in my 40s, my marriage destroyed my confidence. Honestly, it's one of the best things I've ever done.

And, if it is a bit rubbish, it's cost you one night.

It is a walking group -so people who like walking and like company.
You like walking and you are company - I think that you will be very welcome!

Waking fire I'm in exactly the same situation and I am going to go over the Easter weekend as my son will be with his Dad. I need to do something to get me out of the house and I do love walking. You will be ok. Enjoy yourself.

Go! They will probably be glad of someone new to talk to!

Wow thanks so much for your positive responses! As I was typing I was thinking you'd advise me to wait until a friend could go with me again or something. I feel much better now. You're right, I might feel awkward at the beginning, but on the whole they should be a friendly bunch etc.

Thanks so much for the support!

Would you maybe feel more comfortable in a group of 30-40 somethings, if there is one locally? The 20s-30s group may well be friendly and welcoming, in which case, great! However you might find you have little in common with some of the younger ones, 20 years your junior, which might make it hard to fit in. Defo give it a try first and see what it's like. Nothing to lose.

Worst that can happen is you feel uncomfortable and don't go back. Or you'll have a really good time and make friends.

It's a few hours out of your life. Do it!

Get yourself along. It’ll be fun. I wish there was a pushchair walking group in my area or something as I’m sick of walking alone!