Feeling ignored

[ShimmerAndShite]

This isn't a current problem, but one I've been wondering about at the end of a long line of crappy things to happen.

When my OH used to come back from work he would only be interested in seeing our daughter and not me. Once I was trying to talk to him after a day of me not seeing anyone and he basically told me that he didn't really want to speak to me as he was busy with our daughter. I spoke to him about how rejected I was feeling and he laughed and said that he thought it was hilarious that I was jealous of our daughter.

Im now trying to get my head round a lot of things like this that have happened in our relationship.

Was I wrong to feel sidelined?

He sounds like an arse. I can totally understand how you feel, when someone else (even if it is your dd) gets the loving enthusiastic welcome home and you get grumpy moany tired H.

If this is just the tip of the iceberg and he is also making you feel ignored in other ways then you need to take a serious look at your relationship and what you’re actually getting from it.

I’m sure others will be along to say how unreasonable you are to be jealous of your dd, but I’ve always believed that the couple relationship needs to be strong to support the DCs as a team. Feeling that you’re second best in your H’s eyes and then him laughing at you when you try to talk to him about it isn’t fair.

It is just the tip of the iceberg and I'm making plans to leave for many reasons.

I wouldn't say I was jealous, but definitely felt like I didn't exist in his eyes sometimes.

I hope you’re able to separate quickly and as painlessly as possible. It sounds like you will be much happier without him.

I have another thread going that says just how difficult it's going to be!