DP and I have been together 3 years.
When we first met I worked full time and he worked occasionally doing agency work. We lived with his mum for a while and then got our own place.
Due to my ill health and bad mental health I had to give up work. I finished my degree at uni and since then I haven’t been working. I get an income and DP recently got a decent full time job after getting a promotion.
We split the bills and i buy all the stuff for our pets/90% of the food we eat/all our toiletries/cleaning supplies etc. I also do all the housework and cook 5 nights a week.
We have recently decided to redecorate and got some furniture from a family member that was also redecorating. I have bought paint, bought new curtains, a new rug, etc etc to make the house nice. I have spent the last 2 days (approx 6 hours a day) cleaning and decorating and putting the new bits and bobs out in the house to make it nice for us and nice when we have guests etc (mostly his family). He has come home from work both nights and not even acknowledged what I’ve done, not acknowledged the painting, new things, nothing. The only thing he said was (when he text to ask what I was doing and I told him I was decorating) that I better not have got any paint on the sofas or anything. He also made me add up the total of the things I had bought in front of him and tell him exactly how much the stuff cost and what I had bought. I then said I bought some false eyelashes (£3.99) and he said “they’re not for the house why have you bought those”
I understand he works full time but I contribute to the house and am far from a “kept woman” and have legitimate reasons for not being able to work. But I’m trying my best at home and to make the house nice and always keep it clean and tidy and I feel like he doesn’t appreciate what I do at all?
I asked him would he make dinner last night because I was exhausted and in a lot of pain and he said only if I changed the bed (which he had said he would do).
Am I in the wrong to feel underappreciated?