friends that 'copy' you..

[belhamwalk]

anyone else have friends that constantly copy them? we know this one couple and its little, and often. they sort of do everything .. better aswell which is annoying. and they 'adopt' lots of our friends too. now they are going to a festival we can't go to because they heard some of our friends are going... that sounds petty i know but they are off to spain this weekend! to stay with some of our friends. and they are named their DD one of our names which we didn't use because we had a boy... its starting to grate a bit!

A Wendy couple!

It is irritating but they wouldn't do it if they didn't admire your choices! I don't believe anyone does this maliciously, that would be a really weird way to live. I have friends who do this, unfortunately they have got themselves into a significant amount of debt by 'copying' me - e.g. taking out a credit card to pay for a holiday the day after I told them I'd booked one, buying TVs and furniture on finance shortly after I upgraded mine from my savings, this friend also prefers wearing my clothes rather than her own when we go on nights out so I've ended up giving her quite a lot of the clothes she likes because I'd rather have my own style! I just don't tell her as much stuff any more, I started to feel guilty about having so much influence.

I have had this, too! I had to distance myself in the end as it was getting too creepy.

yeah it gets creepy. its more annoying when the bloke is kind of co-opting my DH's work contacts and stuff. i know they don't do it maliciously..

I guess it is flattering in a way but also incredibly annoying. If you want to take back control of the situation then you will have to start keeping more things from them so they are unaware of them and can't copy.

Do you think they're aware of what they're doing? I think sometimes this kind of behaviour can be subconscious and reflect people's lack of self esteem as they feel safer emulating things that they have seen other people that they respect do rather than be original.

Yep. I once went to the bathroom at their house a week after they had visited ours, and she had bought all the same toiletries. That was only the least of it. She had her hair done the same style and colour as mine at one point. Also tried being over familiar with some of my other friends which those people didn't appreciate. Way too creepy. Was easy to distance in the end as they weren't actually generally that nice to us, and often made bitter remarks.

I'm quite similar looking to my ex's new, partner. There are a few changes she's made that very closely resemble changes I've made. I'm not sure time-wise just who is copying who?

Hair style? check
Hair colour? Check
Clothes? check

She resembles a younger mini-me!

We get on well when we meet and we are all acting like adults. I'm getting seriously wigged by it.

Start pretending to like shit stuff.

Absolutely do what @PoorYorick suggests.

The fun you can have with this....