Worried about wedding

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I love my dp, but I’m feeling down about my wedding in August, I would of been quite happy to just go away and get married or do a quiet one but dp didn’t want to do that. I have no family attending, both my parents have passed away, my sister doesn’t speak to me, none of my other family live near by so even though I invited some of them they aren’t coming. My friends live all over the place but most of them are coming. My dp has lived here all his life so he knows so many people and he still has his Mum so she’s coming with her sisters and husbands. He has his brother and all his family and so many friends he’s known for years. I guess I feel jealous, I know that’s selfish but then again I am going along with it for him but I just feel sad. My dd and ds have said it feels like it’s all his family going and none of ours. I feel bad for them too.

I should be happy I’m having a lovely wedding, my 12 year old ds is giving me away and my dd and 2 step daughters are being bridesmaids. I’m lucky right! Why do I feel down then?

You are absolutely allowed to feel whatever you want. Definitely not selfish.

I think it is very natural to want your parents to see you married. I think it does sound dreadfully sad and I would be upset if it was me.

Personally it does sound like you have lost a bit of identity too. It's it you and lots of children marrying someone with a life" - shoes bringing lots of family and friends. Haven't got a good friend who could be a bridesmaid or matron of honour? Could you organise a good hen party so you feel you have back up.
What does your fiancé say? I know it's probably all organised but something low key may make you feel better. Any chance of just quietly eloping and then having the showy bit afterwards in August?

Well I’ve organised a weekend away with my close friends for my hen. They are all coming to the wedding too. I have a good long term friend to be a witness for me. The bridesmaids are all teenagers so very much care about themselves really. It’s all sorted now I just need to get excited about it. It doesn’t help that in the past his brother and one of his friends have been rude to me either. All to do with jealousy