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Things going from bad to worse

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mamaofpreciousboy · 27/03/2018 19:39

My DH and I have been together for 14 years. We always got on well and were definitely in love.

We have a baby boy 6 months old and unfortunately for the past few months things have not been good at all. I find that we argue a lot over trivial things.

He loves our DS and is definitely fond of him. We both agree he's the best thing we've ever done!

It's as if he doesn't like me anymore. Will slate me for being anxious about things or trying to help friends in need by talking to them over the phone. He does also call me names. I do get annoyed with him and he is not solely to blame, as I can be cheeky too.

He never has done anything like plan a surprise for me or treat me to a gift, flowers etc. He never made an effort at all for my first Mother's Day. He will say he will try to be better then does nothing about it.

Also, we have not been intimate this year. This is due to my DH saying he doesn't know what's wrong but he doesn't want to do anything about it. He has said he will try but doesn't. Just over a week ago we had a nice talk about how much I was hurting about all of this and he promised to be better but again he hasn't done a thing. He has always had a low sex drive (before DS and hroughtout our relationship it was maybe on average once every 2-3 weeks) but this is the longest we have gone without having sex in our relationship. He refuses GP, Relate, etc. he says he does not know what's wrong. I find it strange that he can go months without wanting to be intimate with me.

Mostly due to him refusing to even try to be intimate with me I feel that I'm now falling out of love with him which I know sounds awful but I think it's how I feel. I also feel I have lost respect for him. I have no desire to do anything nice for him as he has done nothing for me. I do everything at home and am the main earner.

I just wish I knew what to do. I do love him but hate the way he is behaving.

OP posts:
RickOShay · 27/03/2018 22:07

Mmm. You do everything at home and are the main earner?
What does he contribute to your relationship?

Jon66 · 27/03/2018 22:10

It's possible he has a hormone imbalance. The real issue is if he is not willing to do anything about this, or about anything else, are you going to continue with the relationship. You sound as though you already know the answer.

lifebegins50 · 27/03/2018 23:28

Are you back at work? It could be health issues re sex life but that doesn't account for calling you names.

What else has changed? Does he go out?

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