Living together at 19

[19student]

I'm 19 and a student at university, I have been with my bf for roughly 18 months but been best friends with him for years prior. I really do love him a lot and we have been through a lot together. Things have gone from bad to worse with my family, and his family have been really supportive of me throughout it all. He has just got an offer to study medicine at my university (our home city) after his gap year this year. I currently live in a flat on my own and he lives here four days a week so its not like I don't know what he is like to live with, and when things were falling apart with my family before I got my own flat I basically lived with his family for a few months.
Now he's got this offer for university, we'd already assumed that we would be living together once he starts, as we spend all of our time together anyways and it would be easier financially for the both of us throughout uni to be splitting our bills. Plus we love each other and I love the thought of coming home to him after a bad day. We have found a small house which we could afford to rent and his family are being lovely and have suggested that they would help to furnish the house (buying a couch and a fridge etc).
But the reason I'm posting on here is because I'm not really on speaking terms with my family at the minute. They have always been quite manipulative and controlling, and caused murder when I moved out and became financially responsible for myself with a part time job at a law firm etc. They've never particularly liked my bf (or me, come to think of it), and I know they would try to cause drama if I lived with my bf, but they aren't supportive of me in any way, but this is one of those moments in life I wish I had a supportive mother to turn to for advice, so here I am asking the biggest network of mums I can think of for some advice?
Any advice is welcomed!

I would go for it. Also wanted to say well done for getting away from such a bad situation and becoming independent .

Go for it. Sounds like your head is screwed on and as along as finances are sorted, it is doable. My son shared a bed sit at your age with a girlfriend and it worked out fine for a number of years before they mutually agreed to part. (Still friends though). Sounds like you need to be away from your parents and their influences.

How lovely to hear that you have escaped an unhappy family situation and stood on your own two feet from such a young age. You sound extremely mature - way more mature than I was at this age - and have given this a lot of thought so in principle it sounds like a great suggestion.

However I would worry about you missing out on the Uni experience, friendship bonding, going out clubbing with your mates etc etc but if you aren't bothered about all of that then I would say go for it.

Lots of luck

I was going to post to say wait...on the basis that at 19 most people wont know a DP that well, having been together for maybe one or two years. But as you have known each other for a long time prior, I dont think its so silly. IMO its not ideal (the set up you currently have of a few nights a week seems ideal to me), but it is practical financially moreso than living seperately. A few of my friends moved in together around 18-20, and about 50% are still together (but its not fair to say that 50% broke up because they lived together). Just make sure you are in a position that if you needed to move out in the future, you could.

If It's what you really want I would go for it. I bought my first house when I was 21 with my now husband. He was still a student at the time. It does sound like it would make sense for you both financially. And well done for escaping what sounds like a very toxic family. Good luck.

You're an adult at 19, you're at uni and working. You should be proud of yourself and standing on your own two feet. Good luck with it all you sound like a very sensible, hardworking levelheaded young woman who should be proud of yourself.

I moved in with my bf when I was 20. That was 29 yrs ago. He's DH now, and cooking my tea...

Thanks for your lovely replies, I think I will go for it as I like to think I'm not stepping into this for the wrong reasons. Here's hoping all goes to plan!

If it's what you really want, do it. You sound lovely, very mature and switched on for 19. Good luck

I lived with my bf from 20-30. At universities and beyond but at uni it was also with other friends. We had the same friend's throughout our relationship so it was never a problem.

Your bf is studying medicine so he's going to spend a lot of time studying. Make sure you're not stifled and you get to go out and have fun because you're not the one studying medicine.

Make sure you discuss finances, splitting chores and all the boring stuff as well as the exciting things abut moving in together

I'd say go for it, but make sure you DON'T take on all the 'wifework'.

Chores need to be split 50:50. Start as you mean to go on. Cooking, cleaning, washing, changing the bed, bills, admin etc, all split 50:50. You aren't his mum, so don't let him behave as if you are.

I lived with my dp through uni - met at very start and I preferred his flat mates to mine, so I stayed over a lot... turned into a nearly 10 year relationship! Only piece of advice would be to have a backup plan, we agreed what would happen if we split up - we lived with (primarily) my friends so he would have moved out.