Best friend can't come to small but special birthday party

[sunshinesupermum]

So DD2 has sent out invitations for a small birthday party for me to celebrate a big 0 number to be held at our home. My BF who moved last year from London to Yorkshire has builders beginning work the Tuesday after the party and says she won't be coming.

Since she moved we've only seen each other a handful of times and it's been difficult enough to get used to this after a friendship of 30 years when we saw each other on a very regular basis. It's not the same emailing and I have hearing problems so find the telephone difficult.

Am I right to be very upset that she's not coming to the party?
WWYD wise mumsnetters?

That's good but you should have understood because she lives a long way away and has to prepare for the builders.

Perhaps you could have spoken to her before you got worked up op? Especially as you say you didn’t even want a party particularly anyway. Just a thought for next time.

Wow Angel

'Pehaps you could have spoken to her before you got worked up'
I was upset not 'worked up'. My DDs want to give me the party and wanted my BF there too.

Can you rearrange to have it slap bang to when she is already down?

You said yourself you were worked up in your previous post!

Apologies, that post was a bit sharp, wish i could edit it. Anyway im glad you have worked things out with her.

I don't think it has to be the end of a friendship, but you have to accept that it will be a different kind of friendship. I have some wonderful friends who i see once or twice a year and speak to once a month or less, but when we do get in touch it's like no time has passed

Agree with this. FaceTime is good, whatsapp for keeping in touch with thoughts.

Glad you will see her though OP. Enjoy your big birthday

Random my DDs have already sent invites to everyone else so no it can't be rearranged to suit BF who doesnlt know exactly when she'll be down anyway until after she speaks to bulders on Thursday.

Thank you Please but BF doesn't do any stuff like FB, Wattsapp or Face Time. Basically email only!

Yes Porpoises I did get 'worked up' once I began this thread lol but my OP was that I was very upset. Thanks for your apologies and the flowers and I also wish there was an edit button.

Ah well if need be 2 celebrations!!

Just wish she would have told me before I got so worked up

Literally your own words op.