Fed up

[Fedup85]

Hi mumsnetters.

So my current situation is I have 3 children, eldest 2 from my xh and a baby with my current partner.

My partner is in the army. Up until recently he was only half hour drivr away from the barracks so he could come hime everynight, however he never did as he didnt have a car and he just didnt want to get the train everynight. So he wad only home at weekends. He recently got a car but now hes been moved 2 hours away, so again only comes home at weekends. We arnt married and if we were I wouldnt be happy moving my children around every 2/3 years to be closer to him. But ive just had enough of feeling like a single mum through the week. I dont have a car as I cant afford the running cost and no family around. So im doing everything on my own and im starting to go crazy! I have no hobbies, im on maternity so no job. And even if and when I do start working, its the evenings that I hate. I just end up going to bed. Told my partner how I feel and he said well you will need to go find someone else if you feel like that cause theres nothing I can do about it at the moment.

And help advice ..im just sat here bored.

I couldn’t be with someone who couldn’t be arsed to make a 30 mins drive to come home each night. I’ve never had a job that was less than a 40 mins commute and I’d never dream of not coming home.

My dh works all over Europe and he would rather leave very early and come home very late than be away another night.

Right ok but presumably you knew this before you had his child? Did he promise otherwise? Are you hoping he'll change his career or that you get married and join him? Is it your elder children's being near their father too that's the issue? What do you want to happen?

You knew this before you had a child together? The moving two hours away - his choice or he didn’t have a say in it? If you knew that this was what it would be like being with someone in the forces, then I think YABU now to suddenly decide it’s not for you. If this is something he’s sprung on you suddenly, then yanbu.

I think you’re just overwhelmed with bringing three children up (for the most of it) yourself. Is there family you can move closer to so they can help?

He asdured me he wouldnt be moving away from where he was, the carrer he has in the army doesnt need him to move, well so I thought!

I dont want to up root my children from school, they are settled. If they where his children then id probably be more open to 'following' him around.

Update!!! Hes still 2 hours away in the army...I said enough was enough 5 months ago. He was and still is a pathological liar. Im loving single life a d my kids are so much more happier too