Am I crazy???

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Hiya,

Just looking for some advice..

I've been with a guy for 9 months now but we've known each other for 5 years (and have been practically seeing each other on and off throughout that time.

He has a girl best friend who I have known about for years. This 'best friend' is his boy best mates girlfriend (that's how they met)

Now, for the past months we have been meeting up with the two of them (his guy and girl best mate) and she messages me regularly asking if I am with my partner as she hasn't heard from him etc.

A couple of days ago it came up in conversation that he has had a threesome with this couple who we have been meeting and I have become friends with. When I got told this ( and even now) I have been fuming. I've got to the point where I don't know whether it's me being too crazy about it or not but me and him have been VERY close for a long time (practically bf and gf without the label). The threesome happened when we wasn't talking so I can understand that.. however the fact that he never told me and I have been meeting them all this time, and I know how close him and this girl are is grinding on me :/

Would anyone react the same?? I've gone crazy at him and I really don't know whether I've over exaggerated a bit but I feel like complete sh*t if I'm being honest.

Thank you x

I couldn't cope with that knowledge. Gives me the creeps. I would bin him.

Well she likes her cake and some huh!

I would go mental too, I'd find it really difficult to be round any of them
How long were you not talking for when this happened?

I wouldn't go mental. I would just put me off him do much, I'd just say goodbye.

I'm glad other people feel the same!! He told me in such a way that he didn't think I was going to get mad but the thought of being with the girl when he's done stuff with her makes me feel sick. Even worse they live right near him and knock for him a lot so I feel like there is no getting away from them! I wasn't speaking to him for around 6 months. I can accept that he did it, it's the fact that the three of them have known all along while I have been thinking nothing along those lines :/

obviously I love him to bits and always have so I'm so down about what to do :( I've told him how I feel about it and that it's been a major put off but obviously that isn't going to stop my feelings towards him, and the fact that he's probably going to continue to speak to the girl makes things a lot worse

Sounds like they were planning a foursome too.
I'd bin him and find someone whose honest.

It is a bit of grey area though if you didn't talk for 6 months and you weren't officially together.. I think in the interest of honesty he maybe should have mentioned it earlier, and at least understand why you might be upset

That's the thing, I can accept that he did it as we wasn't a thing then. It's the fact we've been meeting up in the months since then that we've been together that grinds on me. This girl speaks to him and the couple go round his a lot and he didn't think to even mention it?

I've spoke to him about it and he keeps saying 'but we're best friends it's not like that'.. but who would want to be face to face to a girl who's been there with your boyfriend??

I think it's just as disrespectful on her part. If that was me who'd slept with her boyfriend without her knowing I'm sure she wouldn't be happy.

Just so torn on what to do. He's a lovely person and I've never loved someone so much but I'm finding it quite hard to accept..