Is this all there is to look forward to?

[ShadesOfHoratio]

Apologies in advance - this will ramble on a bit. I've been here a while, but name changed for this post.
Married to DH for 20+ yrs. His sex drive has been lower than mine for a long time. It used to bother me a lot, but now I'm menopausal I'm more accepting of that. He's had a lot of stress to deal with in the last 18 months, so our already sparse love life has dwindled to zero. I've been ok with that - I've taken matters into my own hands, as it were.
There are a few things bothering me though. He is drinking a lot - at least a bottle of red every night. We've spoken about this before, but nothing I say makes any difference. He never compliments me on my appearance, even though I take care of myself. He hardly ever takes a shower - he washes every day, but has sensory issues so prefers not to shower. If he starts to smell, I tell him he needs to shower. Sometimes he will shower, sometimes not.
We hardly ever go out on dates. His evenings are spent dozing in front of the tv. He will do this until 1-2 am, then crash into bed.

I know it probably doesn't sound as though anything is wrong. But I'm feeling bored, and quite sad. I'm finding myself wondering if this is all there is to look forward to? I don't even know why I'm posting this tbh.

It’s not going to get better, you know that don’t you? I’m firmly of the view that you have one life, and you don’t have to spend it with people you don’t want to spend it with. Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?

So he's resigned to a life like this,and that suits him fine,but doesn't suit you. So do you accept it and put up with it,Or do you decide you need things to change for you. I know there's loyalty,history,and that,but if he's content living like that,great.....but it doesn't mean you have to be.

When l saw your heading l thought sorry op things do get a bit settled after a while. But then l read that he drinks a bottle of wine every night and never wants to do anything. No life does not have to be like that. Someone has a drink problem when their drinking causes problem for themselves or those around them. He has a drink problem. I am married over 30 years and my dh suffers from depression which medication helps with. He rarely drinks. We go out to eat once a week. Cinema at least twice a month. Lots of long walks and chats.He swims every day so always clean. And weekends away plus our holiday. We don't have the perfect marriage but we have joy together good company and companionship.
Your dh will lose his marriage over drink. If he gave up drink his attitude would change l believe. Don't underestimate the impact of that much drink on everything. If he not prepared to try that l would make my own life. Would you consider going to alanon or another support group? I wouldn't agree that what he is doing is not too bad. It is bad ..very bad and don't doubt that. He is completely neglecting his partner so needs to wake up if he doesn't want to lose her. While you decide what to do take some steps to have your own life outside of him.

I really don't know how you're putting up with this. He drinks a lot, he doesn't shower and you tell him when he smells and even then, he may or may not shower. He's sound like a slob!I
Had he always been like this? If so, you've no chance to change him and I would advise you to live your own life. You don't have to put up with this for the rest of your life, I couldn't stand it for two minutes.
Or, if it's a recent thing. Is he depressed? Even if he is, he needs to help himself by getting to the doctors, stopping drinking and taking a bloody shower.