Getting over everything

[sameoldsame]

I know that many people post this, and I probably know the answer in my heart. But how do you end up not being a bitter angry person.

My ex, of 3.5 ended things with me in november and has since got back together with his ex. I always struggled with her.

We were friends for a long time, so I know them both and I know what happened with their breakup (she cheated) and all I can think now is that he never really wanted to be with me. All the things he ever said about her, about how unhappy he was and how horrible she was were all a lie.
it's just eating away at me. I have sent some angry messages to him, so now he just accuses me of being bitter and sad and twisted and eaten up with envy.

I want to wish him well, I know things don't always work out the way we want them to, but I cannot seem to move on. I am sat here on my own knowing that they're spending their sunday together
I feel totally used, all the time when he was depressed and I was his friend helping him through things.
I know I am better off without him, objectively, I know all the things that people say.
I know I shouldnt have got involved, but I really did love him, and in all honesty I had always had feelings for him, but never told him or anyone.

I don't want to be a bitter sad lady for the rest of my life. But I just cannot seem to let this go. We also work in the same industry, so whilst I don't have to see him all the time, I do bump into him at least once a month. I also think I have lost the chance to ever be properly happy.

Sorry for the rant, but I am just struggling today.

I don’t know what’s worse with Instagram, seeing it and being hurt, or imagining it
Nothing seems better at all.

I know how you are feeling and how bloody hard it is. I take each day hour by hour some days. The pain is something else. But you and I deserve so much better. Just try to focus on something small but positive and grow on it day by day. I'm nearly 4 months in and I still want to set fire to him. But me not engaging causes him more upset than me being the mad bitter ex. Do nothing. Leave him wondering.

Thanks eve
I know I have been bitter and angry.
I am not going to do or say anything about the holiday. It’s my birthday today and I am just going to spend time with my friends and try and move on from it
Tonorrow I am going start to get my life in order properly.
Though I do still wish their plane would go down in flames

Same old. I hope you are doing something nice for your birthday. I am considering a small doll and pins. It will pass. Just doesn't feel like it right now.

If you think professional support would benefit you do see what is out there. I am having some counselling I don't know if it helps but my friends must be sick of hearing me going on. So it is a safe place to vent. Look after yourself

Thanks eve
I am going out with some friends.
The holiday hit me hard. But I’ve blocked him on everything now. I was sadly expecting a happy birthday message and wanting it, but I know I am dreaming of something that could never exist
Got to get my big girl pants on and get on with life.

Happy Birthday sameoldsame

I hope your able to enjoy your birth day... with people who genuinely care about you ..

you are not going to recover from this overnight.. you will go through cycles of deep confusion.. regret.. anguish.. despair.. anger.. rage and then you will begin to see this Prick for who he truly was... a user of the grandest scale.. a scumbag that thinks only of himself and a barefaced liar...

don't believe for one minute that they will sail off into the sunset lovely... think about it .. you and he have shared that last 3 and a half years together... intimacy affection support together.. that time belongs to you and he.. She will be ripping every moment.. you both shared .. apart because it will eat her up .. first sign of an argument or insecurity.. she will through his years with you in his face... over and over and over.. so forget the 'happy images on FB' those are lies.. we all know it's a 'seconds' image on a fake platform ... because this will be her aim.. to eradicate your history with him and create a new one.. in 3 days .. my money's on it falling apart anyway...

so... hold you head up high... and breath.. take every day as it comes and be kind to yourself ... don't rush into things.. and don't make plans that you really don't feel up too... take you time and love yourself

Enjoy your evening.

Good you have blocked everything. The only person who gets upset by checking up is you. I learnt that very early on. They don't give a flying toss about us. I know my ex hates the fact I refuse to be his friend.
He thought I would be a bit upset then pat him on the back and tell him he was right. This has made us all so happy.

I just engage about ££ or the children. I stop everything else in its tracks.

Stay strong and no drunk texting.

Thanks everyone I had a great birthday. No drunk texts.
I just need to start seeing him for who he is.
Just a liar and a manipulator who uses people to make sure he’s ok all the time

Glad to hear you enjoyed your birthday. Just go day by day. Some are better than others.