Is my DH flirting with other women?

[Momo18]

Here's an example.

Colleague was off work, DH was at work. She Facebooked him saying 'missing me'. He replied 'yes hurry back😛'.

He thinks it's just banter and I'm over reacting for being uncomfortable, am I?

Tricky one. Depends on his personality I think. I’d never message a work colleague like that but I know a lot of people for whom that would be normal.

Is there anything worrying you?

Thanks for replying. I know he's not having an affair, but I find it disrespectful. I'm aware I may be massively over reacting though hmm

Sounds jokey to me

Context is everything. It's probably something I'd send TBH it would be very much a jokey thing

It wouldn't bother me at all. That kind of flirty banter is normal in many work environments. It means absolutely nothing.

Thanks everyone, maybe I am over reacting then. That's me told!

How did you know about the message(s)? If he shows you, and is open with his phone and social media accounts etc you may need to discuss boundaries with him, so you both know a limit to the 'banter' and that's it.

If you snooped, then confronted him you're going to have to do some serious work on your relationship, as it's in trouble. Figure out what are the reasons you check his phone, etc. It may be your issue, or his.

Hmmmm. I always wonder about that emoji with the tongue out. I only ever receive it from DH and I never send it to anyone (except him occasionally) because I think it can be misunderstood as suggestive or flirtatious.

The words themself are okay.... but is never ask a male colleague if they were missing me .

It is so short and out of context. It could be anything. Maybe if you could see or find more messages . I always find FB and work colleges odd. I don't have anyone I work with on FB.

Sandy 😜 generally means what you've just said is meant in a jokey way - if I wanted to be flirty & suggestive I'd use 😉 or 😘

OP I've text something similar to my colleague this morning because I'm going in late today & I know he's on his own for the first 45mins because of that.

I wouldn't be concerned with this as an isolated event. If there's are other more subtle cues then I may stay start to wonder.
I work quite closely with a small team of people, half female half male. This is something we would do.
In fact I booked a rather particular busy Friday off last summer and sent a male colleague a WhatsApp pic of myself in a beer garden with a pint on a hot day saying something along the lines of wish you were here, how's work ha ha.
He replied with a 'hate you' lol.
It is just banter, winding up. He is happily married, always talks about his wife and I don't fancy him in the slightest.

No I wouldn’t say that that is flirting. I would miss any colleague if I’m having to pick up their work whilst they are off. I’ve had texts from colleagues saying hurry back before. If it had kisses or other signs of intimacy then I’d worry but not with that!

This wouldn't bother me. It was open and on Facebook.

I've told my male colleague a zillion times that I miss him and I want him back. It just means that it is hectic at work. And we find that kind of speaking where it can mean two things funny. I shared an office with him for ten years. Haven't had a peck on the cheek in all this time. If you'd listened to us you'd have thought something else.

I had an old manager who still regularly messages me/is on the group whatsapp where we all have banter/take the p. He'd flirt with the kitchen sink given half a chance and his wife knew how he spoke to the girls at work but was comfortable with it. It seems harmless but if it bothers you need to let him know

I think I would feel the same.
However, the message seems ok but doing it through Facebook is inappropriate. And I think you should definitely see; if you can find anymore messages, as someone mentioned earlier.