Is this a good enough excuse to move towns when you have 2 dc's almost in their teens?

[Bubblesandcake]

Basically because it's an everyone knows everyone's buisness kind of town. Everywhere I go has bad memories. I avoid every part of it. School run, shopping, local pubs. It's where I grew up and I guess you feel safe wherever you grew up. It feels safe for my dc's. I would love to start a fresh, in a town where nobody knows me. Where I can walk into town locally, join the local gym or sit in a coffee shop watching the world go by. Is it selfish to do that?

Almost in their teens, means they are still at Primary school? Now may be the perfect time to move then. I've moved around A LOT. For work mainly. Haven't regretted any move. There is something very exciting about moving somewhere new. Some of my family are still in the town they were born in. I couldn't hack that, personally.

Have you mentioned it to DC at all? They might be up for it. Do they have their dad nearby too?

Year 7 and year 5. It's the only thing stopping me. I have mentioned it and my eldest isn't sure as she has new friends and the transition into comp was hard for her.
They don't see their dad. No family close by.

It will be more difficult for you now that the eldest has started in new secondary.
Is there an option to move to a town nearby and DD1 still being able to attend the same school? She's old enough to catch a bus or train or even cycle. Or you could get a job in a different town and commute.

Or you just bite the bullet and go for it for the new school year. DD2 will be in Y6 and able to make friends she'll go to secondary with. You will also have both of them in the same school in couple of years time. Get them both into clubs as soon as you move. Sports, arts, dance anything where they will meet other children from different schools.
In this way the three of you will be able to make a new life together.
Where are you thinking of moving to? Are your employment skills easily transferable?

I think my youngest dd will be ok. My eldest, not so. I live in a small community and the small villages outside are too close to home. So, it would have to be a fresh start. I qualify as a nurse in a year so I could pretty much go anywhere. It's such a scary thing to do alone.