Hi everyone,
Firstly, I'm very new to mn so please bear with me. Apologies if this is in the wrong section. I don't feel like I can speak to many people IRL about this, so need to get it off my chest.
I'm 14w pregnant with my first. The pregnancy was a surprise, I've been with my partner for 6 months so in no way were we planning on having children just yet. We're very happy together, both work decently paid jobs, and plan to be together a long time so continuing the pregnancy was the decision we both wanted.
Now we have moved in together, set up joint account, starting to plan everything for the future which is great and I cannot wait for the baby's arrival! Half of me is very excited but half of me is terrified we have taken on too much too soon. I'm very very concerned that my partner feels trapped, and that this will push him away. He would never leave the child, I'm confident about that (his dad abandoned him), but recently he has started to become irritable, somewhat unhappy, disinterested.
He has also recently started a very intense job that demands many hours and a lot of energy from him. I am patient and understanding enough to know that this is a lot of serious change in a short amount of time, and that he is exhausted, and that the very last thing he needs is me moaning that he's not loving enough. Obviously I can't expect him to come to terms with everything straight away. But as much as I tell myself these things I can't shake the feeling that perhaps we are in too deep, and maybe making a mistake.
I feel awful even admitting that but I need to say it.
I'm hoping things change as he settles into his job and as the pregnancy progresses. Hopefully he just needs time to adjust to everything.
Does anyone else have a similar experience? Every person is different but do you think he just needs time?