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But unexpected email

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Lalimerente · 24/03/2018 13:44

I am a bit confused about this so any insight would be good .

I used to help at dd school and she had a lovely young teacher, certainly much younger than me and very very fit an sporty which I am not. We always got on really well , not in a flirty way although there were a couple of awkward moments in the past , nothing serious like turning around at the same time when passing each other in corridors that sort of thing. When dd left the school on the last day we have him a thank you present and he gave me a huge hug. It was very emotional but I took it mean that dd had been a good pupil to work with and he had enjoyed the help.

Dd is now at university and needed a reference so I got in touch a whole 2 years later with no contact in between , gave news, asked for news and asked for the reference

He replied very fast saying that he was glad to be remembered and that I got in touch and to be thought of fondly. Then he added the feeling was mutual.

I am not sure of what to make of this. Part of me thinks that I am reading too much into it and part of me is trying to link it with previous moments and wonders if ijust missed something here and I have been distracted.

In any case there is no chance of anything as everything opposes us including dps , dd, age and fitness levels for a start.

Since i have no friends as such in rl to talk to about this (my friends are really more dp s friends ) I am just asking your opinion. Am I over thinking this?

Thank you

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DullAndOld · 24/03/2018 13:46

I would just say ha ha yeh ok where's the reference? and then leave it, tbh.

ClaraZafara · 24/03/2018 13:46

I think you are overthinking it tbh.

Lalimerente · 24/03/2018 13:50

I am Deffo leaving it. It s just the way it was worded made me wonder. I am totally crap at this kind of stuff. Actually there is no reason why I should ils be anything but rubbish at it Confused

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Vitalogy · 24/03/2018 13:50

This'll be his chance to say something if he's interested. If not, then you'll know he's not and just being friendly.

Lalimerente · 24/03/2018 13:55

He won t I don t think. He knows full well that dp and I have been together a long time so i don t think he would be any more unguarded than this

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littlepill · 24/03/2018 14:03

He might have been surprised that you asked for the reference and not your DD. I would think most students would ask for themselves? Maybe he thought you were taking advantage of the request to get in touch Wink

Evengalina · 24/03/2018 14:03

Aw, OP you have a bit of chemistry together that’s all. Maybe if you didn’t have a DP then it could go somewhere but the reality is that you do and he knows that you do. End of.

Unless you actually do want something to happen, I’d just smile to myself that you’ve still got it and not give it another thought.

Lalimerente · 24/03/2018 14:06

Sorry littlepill the reference was for me! Big fingers typo I am afraid ....

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Lalimerente · 24/03/2018 14:08

Thanks all I think this is all clear And my mind is at rest. My dp is right I am clearly going insane !!!!

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