husband and drinking

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anyone else feel they cant drink with there husband or partner! been together a long time and always been a light weight with alcohol! he carrys on drinking even tho drunk and gets louder and more anoying! this then makes me stop drinking as he is starting to drive me mad!
we dont drink that often so i think he just has a blow out! we recently had a family meal and he made a show and another gathering last night!

Why are you and he still together?. What is keeping you with this man?. Do you think he has a both serious and long standing drink problem?. It is a problem if it is affecting you like this. Has anyone ever commented to you about your H's drinking?. Do they really look at you with a mix of pity and embarrassment for you?. How do you feel when you watch him slowly but surely binge drink into oblivion?

You cannot help him but you can and should help your own self here. Contacting Al-anon could be helpful to you.

i can assure you he hasnt got a drinking problem! we go for months without having a drink, then we have a family meal or gathering and its like he turns into a pig!
hes a loud person anyway without a drink and just gets worse! sometimes i feel like why am i with him as we cant even have a laugh and get drunk together!

OP I understand the hurt and embarrassment... I gave up drinking when each family occasion or night out got like this. My experience it escalated, until he was secretly drinking. We tried counselling but sadly we split up. 20 years and all gone. What I was told is that any drink weather daily or once a year that is out of control IS a drinking problem. It has an underlying issues. It took years to see it. As others will say 3 Cs:
You didn't cause it
You can't control it
You can't cure it

Only he can.. but first he has to accept it. Good luck

It sounds like a binge drinking problem. Why not tell him that he becomes embarrassing and you'd like to enjoy drinking with him?

Perhaps suggest that he spaces out the drinks with a pint of water between each drink and sticking to lower alcohol ales? After a while he will learn to slow down. Binge drinking is a habit that can be tamed if he's willing to do so.

sorry to hear that! i understand what your saying! he just hasnt got a stop button and i also dread any occasion were it invloves him drinking! when we 1st got together many yrs ago he actually stopped drinking all togther as he was really bad when younger and obv drank more going out most weekends with friends! so i ended it and to get me back he gave it up for many years, he gradually started having a couple of drinks at family occasions which was fine as he would only have 2! but now hes getting drunk at then! which isnt often but we have a few weddings and a holiday booked so ill be dreading them.

People do not have to drink alcohol every day to have a drink problem; they do not all sit on park benches.

It is a problem for you as well if any social occasion is being marred for you by his binge drinking. It is a problem if you are becoming affected by his drinking. If he has not got a stop button he has a drink problem because he is not in control of the drink, its controlling him.

So why are you with him now, what is the payoff for you here?.