Unsettled

[hopey]

My partner and I moved to the south from the north west six months ago after a rough year and a half which included a cancelled wedding and me being left to cope with pregnancy on my own.
A week after she was born my partner wanted us to be a family and make another go of things. After having to fend for myself, working long hours, while pregnant and feeling totally isolated as my family were in the south, I said it had to be on my terms, which were to move down south, which was my plan anyway when I thought I was to be a single mum.
That was seven months ago and things have been great. Until last night when my partner said he was unhappy because he doesn't like his job and misses his friends. he said that if it wasn't for me and dd he would move back up north.
The thing is, moving up north is the last thing I want to do. Everytime we go up there to visit his family it just reminds me of everything I went through and I hate it. there's no way I could bring myself to live there. Yet it is upsetting me that he's unhappy. I don't want to keep worrying what's going to happen. He's said that he'll be with us no matter what, but I feel guilty that he's unhappy as it was because of me that he's moved here. I really can't go back there though.
Sorry for rambling but I'm really worried.

Hopey
Much the same thing happened with my dh and myself but with not so much of a geographical area involved. He is a South-Londoner and I am from West London. He really did not want to move but, like your dp, said he'd go wherever I wanted to live.
I remember the first year after we moved was horrendous, lots of rows, and not a nice time. Four years down the line (it takes time) he now goes out with friends that he has met here.

It was very hard for him, going out with people that he only knew through me (he is very shy) but he now sees those friends more than I do. It did help having something in common with them (ie football and me!).

He still stays in touch with his old mates but in the few times that we go back to see them he always says how glad he is that we moved away.

Do you have any friends/neighbours that he has anything in common with? It could even just be the baby (my dh goes out with a neighbour who detests football but has a dd the same age as ours).

I know you are worrying about him but he has already made that major commitment of going where you will be happy and I really don't think he would go back. As time goes on, he will realise that he has a new life (and family) away from his old life. But it does take time and a lot of adjusting.